Not really.. sure, it may seem like they all fall somewhere between those two types.. but that's because most of the women I interact with aren't 30+ years old.. the clock isn't ticking for them.. so they still have the luxury of their strech-mark-free-silky-smooth-perfectly-toned skin, perky breasts, firm butt, perfect body form, sexy legs, and all the other blessings of youth.. to afford them the bliss and "dreamer" state needed to think they'll meet the perfect man on the beach or in their yoga classes, or walking down the street.. blah blah.. and that they're "not looking for a guy, ever".. and that they "don't need a guy"..
Underestimate women? No, I actually overestimate, constantly, and end up disappointed each time.. But I guess as 30's start to creep in, and the thought of growing old, single, with no kids, no husband, alone, creep in.. they snap out of their fantasy-land.. and fall into reality.. there's a gray line, that marks the transition from immature to mature, from girl to woman.. and the "women" I interact with, for the most part, haven't crossed it yet; though many think they have..
Not to imply that 30's are unattractive.. i've met two women fairly recently in their 30's.. it's just a different appeal.. i'm a little biased, because from my point of view, older women just want a younger guy for sex, and only for sex.. But on the plus side, are more secure and aware of themselves in relation to younger girls.. And the first give-away of that is less being fake, less game-playing, and just more being natural and doing what they want to do without feeling inhibited..
But in the end, girls are girls, and no matter how old, there are some things that just never change..
If you can't stop the Wind, then you can't stop the Storm.
I think there's a problem here tho Mish you may not be aware of. Perhaps it more a problem that comes a bit older than you are but I have learned to be very careful about giving compliments to men. Its gotten me in trouble in the past. Its happened at work, in my social activities, where a simple compliment is misconstrued by a male as a sign of interest & I end up with what my husband calls 'my gentleman admirers'. I think a lot of older women run into this problem.
Its a question of boundaries, of course. And it can be cute & flattering. But honestly, it gets tiresome sometimes having to make and set the limits all the time. So a lot of women, like myself, learn to simply avoid giving too many compliments to males esp if they seem lonely or needy. Its a shame, in some respects.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
I know what you mean Indi. And I respect that ofcourse.
Can just be, tiring for guys as well. To constantly find ways to give that positive energy with less chance of getting any of it back. It can be tiring being expected to be a constant source of entertainment to strangers you approach.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
Mish - I compliment males NOW (when it seems appropriate). I didn't do it in my 20s though, because that was like begging for trouble. Most young males misconstrue compliments as having some deeper meaning. I mean, if you guys think that simply going out dancing with the girls means you *really* want a stupid, sweaty, aggressive guy to relentlessly hit on you all night, what would it mean to you if we admitted we liked your shoes?
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
You know, it is rare that a guy gets complimented. It never really occurred to me. But why would a guy want compliments, anyway? That big radiant smile a woman flashes when you say just the right thing, that's worth far more than anything she could ever say. Mmm. And when her cheeks flush and she drops her eyes shyly...
You know what? The reason I can't commit is simply because I love all women. Well, the attractive ones, anyway.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
Gribble is so yummy.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
I'm just trying to give you an alternate hypothesis, Mish. I'm married, and therefore obviously attached, and I still find it can be a problem if I'm not careful (and I'm certainly not the flirty type). So, I can only imagine how much more difficult it would be for an attractive gal who was actually single & just wanting to be friendly. Having to constantly be 'on guard' that any gesture of friendliness towards a guy be interpreted as more than simply that.
Not sure how that helps you tho, except to be aware you might be working against that kind of mentality.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
I admit, that's better than a compliment. Provided the girl actually gives that reaction. Not look at you like you are the lowest slime ball on earth that she's about to crush with her heel.
I guess saying the right thing at the right time is a challenge we guys kinda just get used to.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~
There's an art to complimenting. Women get catcalls all the time. If you introduce yourself and engage in a little friendly conversation before saying something you mean in earnest she'll generally take it well. And if she doesn't, hey, you've just saved yourself a lot of time dealing with an uptight bitch.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
Ah, smiling. Yes, that's the other problem. Almost as good as a compliment, that, for a male response.
What I'd like are those force bubbles like in a McMaster Bujold book. If I was single again, I'd only decloud my bubble briefly for those males who I was actually interested in. Sort of a reversible burka, but you could actually wear fashionable clothing underneath for your own pleasure & noone would know unless you wanted them too.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Bah. You sound like a militant dyke, Indi.
God, so atrocious in the Old Testament, so attractive in the New--the Jekyl and Hyde of sacred romance.
-Mark Twain
If people are good only because they fear punishment and hope for reward, then we are a sorry lot indeed.
-Albert Einstein
If you're trying to goad for a pic its not going to work.
Why militant, Grib. Do you know the book I'm talking about?
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
Towards the sun, carry your name
In warm hands you are given
Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
~Born to Live - Mavrik~