Their mistake was at the beginning though - they knew that the person they chose to spend their life with at the time was a monogamist and they chose to be with them anyway... it doesn't make sense. Even taking into account the fact that they may have realized they needed more sexual variety only after years they were committed to that one person, they still should have realized at the beginning that getting into a relationship with someone who is strictly monogamous meant "sacrificing" those needs for sexual variety for the rest of their lives. It was simply part of the initial arrangement. To cheat down the road means to break the initial arrangement, which isn't reasonable at all IMO.
It's not the same thing (when I talk about "being in love" I don't mean the initial phase of infatuation and honeymoon period, I mean the feeling you get after you know a person really well and even after years together you still love them deeply and romantically) but I get what you're saying: you are talking about people who are in constant search of the "rush" that comes from the initial phase of infatuation. In such case I still think it's more reasonable for a person like that to be a serial monogamist, or to find a person that is ok with open relationships or polyamory, rather than to be with only one monogamous person and to systematically cheat on that person.Serial Monogamy seems to becoming more and more popular where they do exactly what you suggest and throw away a relationship soon after that excitement of new relationship engergy starts to wane. Like your thinking that you "love" someone but you're no longer "in love with them." *grinz*
This is true until the last sentence, in which he says "IF the situation doesn't admit sex outside of the relationship without having to lie, then it's reasonable to cheat"... when in fact the reasonable thing to do would be to break up with the monogamous person, and find a non-monogamous person.The dude in the article is trying to change the part where one must lie and instead help others to perhaps view sex as less important in the entire scheme of life partnerships.
He chose his words poorly then - he should have said something like "If the situation doesn't admit sex outside of the relationship without having to lie, what most people do is resort to cheating." Saying it's a "reasonable solution" is giving an opinion about it, and a positive one too.He does not condone cheating though.. he just talks about the various dynamic of it and what usually happens (how cheaters operate if you will) when sex is being had, for the sake of it, outside the union.