Trapped in a relationship

[lesa]

Perhaps you missed the point? No one is advocating that she shouldn't tell potential partners her status, but rather she shouldn't feel desperate about finding partners. Herpes is not uncommon.

Do you feel that I may have missed the point?

What is this advocating and desperate stuff? I am giving the reason for why people may go to sites like the one she went to. That is my point. I never made assumptions that she wouldn't tell anyone and I am certainly not saying that she was desperate. Support group-like sites are great ideas for any and everything.

Oh, and my posts 59 & 60 are FYI posts. It is not directed at the OP.

[profchaos71]

Well since we all want to talk about how so many people out there have genital herpes i spent some time researching the numbers and of the approx. 20 million females aged 20 and up that have hsv2,about 80,000 live in my state.Since about 20% of them live in the detroit metro area that leaves at best 65000 women 20 and up.Now how many of those women are actually 30 to 40 years old?How many live within an hour from me?How many of those women have an internet connection?How many of those women have actually had the guts to put themselves out there on a std dating site? I can tell you that if you were to look at one of these sites and do a search for someone within your age range and within a decent distance from yourselves you wouldnt be mouthing off like people in my position have so many options in the world of dating. If i were to do a search on one of the most well known sites right now for a woman between 30 and 40 i might get 20 viable results.Out of those 20 i now have to see which ones i have things in common with and i find attractive. Now i have to hope they feel the same about me. Then we have to meet in person and thats the real test right. So don't start thinking that it's no different than anyone else out in the dating world because you have no idea.I used cdc numbers and us census numbers for my figures.I naturally had to do some estimating but i kept it as honest as possible.We are limited not only to the people of opposite gender that have hsv2,we are limited to the people that have hsv2,are within dating range,are brave enough to put up a profile,and are compatible with ourselves.Mabey now you get how the two of us ended up together.

[vashti]

I'm still unconvinced.

You and lesa can come up with 101 reasons why it's okay for a man your age to date 19 year old girls, and I will forever remain unconvinced. Sorry. Maybe when your daughters are closing in on that age, you'll understand why.

Lesa - I guess your last couple of posts were a bit unclear to me when you went off by saying you'd be angry if someone didn't tell you they had herpes. Sorry.

[divinechaos]

We weren't dating we were having sex..period...

I would like to point out that I wasn't desperate, I was horny and he lived near by and had a big dick, plus the fact that he has herpes which gets rid of a lot of complications, therefore he became the target of my sexual affection.

[Gribble]

We weren't dating we were having sex..period...

I would like to point out that I wasn't desperate, I was horny and he lived near by and had a big dick, plus the fact that he has herpes which gets rid of a lot of complications, therefore he became the target of my sexual affection.

Well ain't you a classy broad?

[Jade Altair]

Like you would ever have a child!

Why wouldn't I?

[IndiReloaded]

This thread is going nowhere. I don't think I even believe the OPs are real. I'm done giving advice to these two. If they are for real they should stop posting online and go out and focus on their daughter & seeing a mediator.

[lesa]

You and lesa can come up with 101 reasons why it's okay for a man your age to date 19 year old girls, and I will forever remain unconvinced. Sorry. Maybe when your daughters are closing in on that age, you'll understand why.

I said the past was done and cannot be changed and they need to concentrate on the present but learn from their past mistake so that they don't repeat it.

If I ever say it is okay for a man his age to date a 19 year old, please shoot me because I have gone bonkers. And if I had a daughter that age, I would really be bonkers for saying that. I don't need a child to imagine my reaction.

This post is making me look bad hehe. Oh my, I can imagine going berserk if my 19 year old was interested in a 37 year old. BERSERK!. Where's my gun?

Anyways. I agree with others that the thread has out last its usefulness .