Ladies (and some of you men): Fashion Advice

[DharmicLove]

i love my uggs. who cares what a hater has to say as long as my feets are warm.

Yea, UGGS are okay, I guess.. a little too trendy for my taste however. I would never advise a client to wear Uggs.

[ecojeanne]

^^lite you're talking about casual wear, that is a different story altogether. even a pea brain can pull off casual, well most can imo. pair of skinny jeans, ugg boots, or ballet shoes, snug top and limit to two colours and no makeup or very little, fashionable earrings, long necklace, a bangle, hair in ponytail or down with a fringe (bangs) and there you have it a simple yet fashionable casual look....for women anyway

just my thoughts, not expensive.

[Indignant]

Here's where I disagree. Many women look their best when they're just being themselves. Messy hair, t-shirt, sweats, no/low makeup. I can afford a high maintenance woman, but I don't want to. My wife dresses better than I do, has fashion sense, but doesn't spend a major portion of her paycheck on clothing.

If you don't like what a person looks like at their "worst", then why would you be attracted to them when they've spraypainted a face on and spent enough time in a tanning booth to be well on their way to looking like a handbag in 5 years? Do you think you're always going to see them dressed up?

one thing that i won't allow myself to ever do is wear t-shirts or sweats. i am fine with no makeup and bad hair days though.

[Lite]

^^lite you're talking about casual wear, that is a different story altogether. even a pea brain can pull off casual, well most can imo. pair of skinny jeans, ugg boots, or ballet shoes, snug top and limit to two colours and no makeup or very little, fashionable earrings, long necklace, a bangle, hair in ponytail or down with a fringe (bangs) and there you have it a simple yet fashionable casual look....for women anyway

just my thoughts, not expensive.

Yes, women should shove their feet into ballet shoes, because they obviously don't understand that women's fashion footwear is the modern day equivalent of Chinese Foot Binding. No, not at all. Why not just go one step further and go to ballet heels!

Some women shouldn't wear a snug top, or skinny jeans. Kind of like how most women shouldn't wear low-rise jeans. I'm sorry, but you need clothes that accentuate and flatter your shape, not make you look like a jockey in the middle of a flood.

There's pretty much no reason your basic style cannot be incorporated into both casual, work, and formal dress. The basics stay the same regardless of whether you're wearing a suit and tie or a t-shirt with jeans. The colors that flatter your skin tone don't change based on the type or cost of the fabric.

Some people can wear red, others look jaundiced if they do. I can wear pretty much any color except pink, pink just doesn't go with my skin tone. Black, green, orange, red, yellow, blue. All look great on me. Pink? Not so much.

That doesn't change if I'm wearing a button-up shirt with french cuffs, a polo, or a sweater.

[ecojeanne]

i agree casual wear can be worn out as evening wear too, but i personally don't feel that 'dressed up' in jeans, but thats just me.

changing the days plain top to a more fancy top can change the look to become more nightlifewear, but likely the necklace will have to go to show the top off and the uggs gotta go of course

[Gigabitch]

Dharmic, what's your take on loose/ comfortable clothing versus snug/ fitted clothing? We have a bit of a running argument in my office about this.

[DharmicLove]

Here's where I disagree. Many women look their best when they're just being themselves. Messy hair, t-shirt, sweats, no/low makeup. I can afford a high maintenance woman, but I don't want to. My wife dresses better than I do, has fashion sense, but doesn't spend a major portion of her paycheck on clothing.

If you don't like what a person looks like at their "worst", then why would you be attracted to them when they've spraypainted a face on and spent enough time in a tanning booth to be well on their way to looking like a handbag in 5 years? Do you think you're always going to see them dressed up?

And its not about being able to afford a high maintance woman. Face it, these average looking girls are hot messes, CLUELESS. The thing is if they want to attract that hot guy, then they need to be on their shit. Their hair should be done, their make-up should be just enough so that it is not obvious, their nails should not be french manicured, but rather, painted one solid color, or bare. They should learn how to move about gracefully, with their heads up. Before I moved to New York, I noticed how sloppily alot of women moved their bodies - NOT FLATTERING. The way you project yourself i.e. the way you walk and hold your posture is also a part of style. I'm just so used to seeing very stylish, diva like, fierce women on the catwalk, and off the catwalk, that if I was a straight guy, I wouldnt look twice at such a raggedy woman.

The only reason why guys who stress the fact that they'd rather have an average girl, no make up, and hair wild, probably sloop footed, that hunches over, is because they are intimidated by those girls who know how to move and look to attract the hottest guys on. You should come to New York, its a whole city full high maintenance chicks that I know you would fall to your knees to date.

Tanning is not fashion, and IMO, should be avoided.. yuck! There is nothing worse than orange skin.

[DharmicLove]

^^lite you're talking about casual wear, that is a different story altogether. even a pea brain can pull off casual, well most can imo. pair of skinny jeans, ugg boots, or ballet shoes, snug top and limit to two colours and no makeup or very little, fashionable earrings, long necklace, a bangle, hair in ponytail or down with a fringe (bangs) and there you have it a simple yet fashionable casual look....for women anyway

just my thoughts, not expensive.

lol.. thats too much girl, leave that bangle at home. Coco chanel always said, take one thing off before you leave. Makes a whole lot of sense. The long necklace would work, I think, with just some diamond studs.

[DharmicLove]

Yes, women should shove their feet into ballet shoes, because they obviously don't understand that women's fashion footwear is the modern day equivalent of Chinese Foot Binding. No, not at all. Why not just go one step further and go to ballet heels!

Some women shouldn't wear a snug top, or skinny jeans. Kind of like how most women shouldn't wear low-rise jeans. I'm sorry, but you need clothes that accentuate and flatter your shape, not make you look like a jockey in the middle of a flood.

There's pretty much no reason your basic style cannot be incorporated into both casual, work, and formal dress. The basics stay the same regardless of whether you're wearing a suit and tie or a t-shirt with jeans. The colors that flatter your skin tone don't change based on the type or cost of the fabric.

Some people can wear red, others look jaundiced if they do. I can wear pretty much any color except pink, pink just doesn't go with my skin tone. Black, green, orange, red, yellow, blue. All look great on me. Pink? Not so much.

That doesn't change if I'm wearing a button-up shirt with french cuffs, a polo, or a sweater.

LOL ooohh. I like u.

[NeoSeminole]

DharmicLove says:

"The only reason why guys who stress the fact that they'd rather have an average girl, no make up, and hair wild, probably sloop footed, that hunches over, is because they are intimidated by those girls who know how to move and look to attract the hottest guys on."

ha ha ha, so true.

[DharmicLove]

Dharmic, what's your take on loose/ comfortable clothing versus snug/ fitted clothing? We have a bit of a running argument in my office about this.

Loose clothing = horrible on women. Men may get a pass though, but even then their jeans or slacks should be fitted, but definitely not tight.. refer to my picture in the gallery. Women should avoid wearing jeans so tight that it is yeast infection worthy. AVOID CAMEL TOE.

[ecojeanne]

yeh i agree actually dhar, bangles do tend to annoy me, so either the bangle or necklace then?

i sometimes wear a bangle, it depends if i wear a fitted leather jacket.

in regard to loose tops, some people should wear less fitted tops imo, but for women that have a bit of a belly which i used to have i would wear a looser top and for night would definitely wear a dress as it hides any bumps. i used to wear those control pants hehe, thankfully i don't need to anymore, but they can be nice and warm in the winter lol

[DharmicLove]

^^ Oooo I would love to see that fitted leather jacket. Sounds hot. But bangles are cool in my book, maybe a gold bangle.. those plastic bangles work sometimes, but otherwise, can look tacky. You can wear ONE bangle, OR a nice gold watch, and some earrings. Otherwise, you can go with the necklace alone and look chic. It really just depends on what you are wearing. If you are dressed for a black tie event, minimize the accessories, and always, ALWAYS carry a clutch, not a normal handbag.

[Lite]

The only reason why guys who stress the fact that they'd rather have an average girl, no make up, and hair wild, probably sloop footed, that hunches over, is because they are intimidated by those girls who know how to move and look to attract the hottest guys on. You should come to New York, its a whole city full high maintenance chicks that I know you would fall to your knees to date.

Tanning is not fashion, and IMO, should be avoided.. yuck! There is nothing worse than orange skin.

Ah yes. Dating in NYC. The pinnacle of vanity. Oh wait, that's LA.

Sorry, I'd far rather date someone with average looks, and some fashion sense than a high fashion moron that cannot count to 6 without pointing to how many pairs of heels she owns.

There is far more to life than fashion sense, and people who are so utterly vain that they feel how they dress defines who they are... Well that's a big life of insecurity right there. Oh no, what if someone outdresses me! The horror!

There's more to life than fashion, your job, and which street in Hell's Kitchen you now live on because it's trendy.

Give me a real person, with real intelligence, a genuine smile, who cares about people in general, and is OK with their body.

As for Gay men being the pinnacle of fashion. That would be SOME gay men, I've met far more slob gays than fashionable ones. By a good 2-1 margin. The only places I've found that your clothing and fitness level mattered in a gay bar is NYC, LA, and San Francisco... And even then I've managed to be hit on in each of these cities at a club. The slobby gays tend to stay in the South Bay of San Francisco.

When it comes to fashion the basics still stand. Color, cut, and petability of the fabric. If you don't want to wear jeans, get a nice pair of microfiber slacks or linen. Pretty much my basic rule of thumb is: If the fabic isn't soft enough for a woman to want to pet, don't buy it.

[Lite]

My honest pet peeve about people and their dress tends to not come from their clothing. It comes from people who get cheapass haircuts.

Ugh!