how should I fix a confidence problem?

[misombra]

i was into sociology and economics. i majored in them. wait, i'm still majoring in them. i'm such a loser.

i love astronomy, astronomy my love.

[shh!]

Loser? Why would you say that? Because you are a non-traditional student? All of the professors I've had have LOVED their non-traditional students. (I am one, too. I am doing prerequisites for an RN program which I expect to start next year.) I still keep in contact with several of the profs I've had...

[misombra]

lol i know. i really am learning things that i love. it's just that i don't know how many times i've heard, "sociology is what people major in when they don't know what they want to major in", or "you'll never go anywhere with a degree in sociology".

[shh!]

lol i know. i really am learning things that i love. it's just that i don't know how many times i've heard, "sociology is what people major in when they don't know what they want to major in", or "you'll never go anywhere with a degree in sociology".

Obviously they are the stupid people who do not find intrinsic value in education. I definitely believe in education for its own sake, no matter the subject. And who cares if you get to work in your field or not later? Most people still hate their jobs. But perhaps you will seek out a Master's degree to increase the liklihood of being able to work in your field?
:-)

[misombra]

i'm actually thinking about taking the lsat and applying for law school. i already work in the field of sociology anyway somewhat, so that degree will definitely help me move up in my company, which is a good thing. but having the money of a lawyer would be the shit. my job will only pay so much you know?

[nomas]

Damn..this was a good one..I would have loved to jump into this discussion, but I am afraid it's late...

oh well..maybe the right themes will come up again where I can throw in my 2 cents.

In the mean time:

I agree with Shh for the most part. I think this dude agrees to some degree too, else he wouldn't have provided the two details exclusively. He knows they are a factor and either conciously or subconciously wanted reinforcement as to this fact and then sought out either advice on how to change this or some sympathy along the way.

[misombra]

the thing is i don't think people want to hear the truth sometimes. people are afraid of the truth because it damn well scary! but we need to hear it sometimes. it's like telling your friend that she's gaining weight or that she dresses funny, you know? it's not something you're going to like hearing but that person is kind enough to tell you and still regard you as the same person. don't we all want that? someone to be truthful with us and tell us where our flaws lay so that we can better ourselves and still like us and be our friends even though we aren't always the best people? i wouldn't want a friend that just sugarcoated everything and kept things from me or let me gain a hundred pounds and dress funny and have weird looking makeup or other things. i know who my true friends are and they are the ones that are straight up with me and don't let me get away with things, you know?

anyway, i think that's true of a lot of people that come in here. they don't really want the truth, they want people to feel sorry for them or tell them what they want to hear.

[Only-virgins]

Shut the hell up people. This guy just wants advice. He never said what his "life" was like. Just that he has no luck with girls. Most first impressions are made with out a person telling the other were they work and if they live alone. If a girl asked me that and I just met her I would say "none of your business".

[misombra]

well as much as you think it doesn't matter ov, it matters to most people. i'm not saying you have to be a millionaire or something. it's just that financial security is a goal for most people. a job is a necessary thing for me. i don't think i could date a guy that didn't have a job or couldn't hold one down for very long. i'm not saying that guys without jobs are bad people or they're worthless or can't be good boyfriends, but a lot of women want a man with a job. it signifies that in the future he could potentially provide for a family if it went there. you might not be able to imagine it ov but at a certain age those things become important, paritcularly for a woman. that's how i feel anyway. and for me a person's job, or lack thereof, does make an impression when it comes to dating somebody. so sorry ov, that's just the way i feel and i know i'm not the only one. you can call me shallow i don't care.

[mtnjason19]

I think its somewhat bullshit that I can see the little princess housewives driving around in one of their bavarian sports cars. Do they work? NO. She can milk the husband for everything. I think I am going to find a rich women to take car of me. That way I can workout, cook once in awhile (when she is not taking me to Sullivans for a steak). All I have to do is **** her when she wants. That would be cool. On a realistic note, I am applying for anything and everything, couldn't girls just look at me as a good stock to buy, and in half a year it will be 10 times more than its worth now. I would like to think its a damn good buy.

[Promise]

I think its somewhat bullshit that I can see the little princess housewives driving around in one of their bavarian sports cars. Do they work? NO. She can milk the husband for everything. I think I am going to find a rich women to take car of me. That way I can workout, cook once in awhile (when she is not taking me to Sullivans for a steak). All I have to do is **** her when she wants. That would be cool. On a realistic note, I am applying for anything and everything, couldn't girls just look at me as a good stock to buy, and in half a year it will be 10 times more than its worth now. I would like to think its a damn good buy.

Don't get wrapped up in what the "majority" want, or thinks is right. Believe in what you think is honest and loyal to you, as I completely understand where you are coming from when you make the comparison between men and women. We live in the 20th century, where women are liberal as men in every right. What makes it right for women to want things that way, while men cannot? People shun at the fact once it's stated, but contradict the fact when it comes to actualism to the things they say about equality for all people.

There will be a girl that will look at you that way, and you shouldn't settle for anyone otherwise, as you don't deserve anyone that can't comprehend the nature of your spirit and heart; looking past the material things, as the majority of us leave in dust at the end of life, with insignificant legacies for history to really remember us by anyways.

I hope you the best.

[mtnjason19]

Don't get wrapped up in what the "majority" want, or thinks is right. Believe in what you think is honest and loyal to you, as I completely understand where you are coming from when you make the comparison between men and women. We live in the 20th century, where women are liberal as men in every right. What makes it right for women to want things that way, while men cannot? People shun at the fact once it's stated, but contradict the fact when it comes to actualism to the things they say about equality for all people.

There will be a good that will look at you that way, and you shouldn't settle for anyone otherwise, as you don't deserve anyone that can't comprehend the nature of your spirit and heart; looking past the material things, as the majority of us leave in dust at the end of life, with an insignificant legacies for history to really remember us by.

I hope you the best.

That was pretty cool. Thanks.

[shh!]

I think its somewhat bullshit that I can see the little princess housewives driving around in one of their bavarian sports cars. Do they work? NO. She can milk the husband for everything. I think I am going to find a rich women to take car of me. That way I can workout, cook once in awhile (when she is not taking me to Sullivans for a steak). All I have to do is **** her when she wants. That would be cool. On a realistic note, I am applying for anything and everything, couldn't girls just look at me as a good stock to buy, and in half a year it will be 10 times more than its worth now. I would like to think its a damn good buy.

Ya know, it strikes me that in the "olden days" men used to take pride in being able to support a family because it made them feel like men, and after all, they are usually able to draw a better income than a woman. Nowadays it seems that many males are stuck in perpetual boyhood. I wonder when THAT happened...

[Only-virgins]

Ya know, it strikes me that in the "olden days" men used to take pride in being able to support a family because it made them feel like men, and after all, they are usually able to draw a better income than a woman. Nowadays it seems that many males are stuck in perpetual boyhood. I wonder when THAT happened...

The same time females decided to leave the kitchens.

[misombra]

if it's important to you that a woman have a job then find one with a job. if you want one that cooks and cleans all day then find a one who will. i don't really think it's that much of a double standard. men have prerequisites and expectations for women all the time that are a lot of times much more shallow.

and might i remind you that women only started "getting out of the kitchen" when their men had to go off to world war 2.