Complicated relationship with a dancer

[surfhb2]

She wasn't there tonight so I'm pretty disappointed. I realize some aspects of my relationship may not be health and may be somewhat empty however. On a night off like tonight and I have nobody else to hang out with. What do I do? It's not as if I have a girlfriend I can call up and make plans with. I love going there and spending time with her. I feel like I can tell her anything about myself. She's so sweet and beautiful and willing to converse with me and I can't get that anywhere else. It's my ultimate ambition to develop a real relationship with her but the way she makes me feel is worth the money.

My cousins was a dancer and I really wish she could talk to you. You know who many men like yourself she had going on at once? Probably 12 or so. Ive listen to thier messages to her.....Saw the things they bought. It is sad from an outsiders perspective but if it make you happy....then so be it.

Just remember....someday shes not going to be showing up anymore

[Wakeup]

She wasn't there tonight so I'm pretty disappointed. I realize some aspects of my relationship may not be health and may be somewhat empty however. On a night off like tonight and I have nobody else to hang out with. What do I do? It's not as if I have a girlfriend I can call up and make plans with. I love going there and spending time with her. I feel like I can tell her anything about myself. She's so sweet and beautiful and willing to converse with me and I can't get that anywhere else. It's my ultimate ambition to develop a real relationship with her but the way she makes me feel is worth the money.

Okay that justification/reasoning you feed yourself is even sadder then what I said was the saddest thing I ever heard. Were you actually born in America or are you from Ork? Third Rock from the Sun, perhaps?

Where are your friends, family, support system?

[pcmaster]

Where are your friends, family, support system?

In strip club.

[nathoonder]

Okay that justification/reasoning you feed yourself is even sadder then what I said was the saddest thing I ever heard. Were you actually born in America or are you from Ork? Third Rock from the Sun, perhaps?

Where are your friends, family, support system?

I haven't heard of this planet Ork and the third rock from the sun is earth if you think about it. First off, I do count her as a friend though. Secondly, all my other friends have either said mean things to me at some point or otherwise betrayed me in some way. This girl has never said something mean to me, Although I love two members of my family I don't feel comfortable enough to open up with them, nor are they sensitive enough. So as for the support system I don't really have one other than her. I can't stand my job, and it makes it easier to cope with knowing I can go see her on my days off, if she's working. I got stuck with mandatory overtime tonight and I didn't get to see her last night so it's like. Doubly frustrating.

[pcmaster]

Well its not really healthy to put all your heart in one person - if you lose her you will lose everything. Its like putting all the eggs(balls) in one basket. I suggest you at least change the strippers from time to time. It will not only give you more courage to talk importand stuff with her but also widen your social circle lol and give you more value in her eyes.

Seriously here is what I mean -

How to pick up womens in club
youtube.com/watch?v=b4PFpo8rogY

[nathoonder]

I've never agreed with following the advice of pick up artist. They are very anti "nice guy" but I don't view myself as nice or mean or good or bad, I simply am. And I don't want to change that. I have a friend who always tries to tell me how to treat women and he says "treat em like dirt, they'll stick to you like glue". But that's not the way I do things, I'm easy going, funny, conservative and polite and that's the way I'm going to be. I'd rather try and fail my way 100 times as opposed to following a script by a pua and POSSIBLY succeeding.

It's not healthy to put all my heart into one person, this I already know. I do agree with not putting all my eggs in one basket. I talk to other dancers(usually only the ones that are friends with the one I talk to) , heck even a couple of them entrusted me with their real names, but they don't mean as much to me as the girl I'm pursuing.

[pcmaster]

Have you tried to buy her for all night?

[nathoonder]

Have you tried to buy her for all night?

Certainly not. That would far exceed the budget I allow myself.

[pcmaster]

Does it makes you feel sad that you cant spend more time with her? Do you look at other people who is spending time together like normal couple with jealousy? Do you dream about that kind of relationship?

[Wakeup]

*shaken head here*

Oh well. Someone's gotta keep the strippers in da dough... might as well be you, Mork. aka Nathoonder.

[nathoonder]

Yeah I wish I could spend all night with her. It's ironic, I was just at Chipotle and was envious of the happy couples. I'd absolutely love to be in a relationship like that but this is the next best thing, it gives me something to look forward to and makes me happy for a little while. Sometimes she goes and talks to other customers while I'm there because she knows I'll wait for her and that can be a tad frustrating.

[Wakeup]

Oh, by all means DO wait for her. She's your life, afterall. 0.o

[pcmaster]

Man if you want to be your relationship to be normal one then go for it - what I mean is GO STRAIGHT FOR IT. Phone number, date, kiss etc. If it dont work out find next girl. Until you find what you are looking for. Staying in your comfort zone will not change anything just make you a bigger pussy. Going cirlces, hesitating and not going straight for what you want will turn off any girl and when you finaly man up for something they wont have any respect left for you. Even if you fail that means you couldnt have relationship your way anyway so you didnt waste time on illusions.
Once you stop being afraid to lose what you dont have, courage will reach the point when you will be brave enought to make actions.

It will be much easier to be rjected by the girl you dont like before you go to importand girl. So you will see that rejection is not deadly.

[nathoonder]

You're right! I was just at the store, and it suddenly occurred to me all the things I could of spent my money on other than her and actually gotten something out of it. I now see the error of my ways and feel foolish in doing so. Like it's probably close to 1,00 dollars and I have absolutely nothing to show for it. I am done wasting my money.

[VincenzoG91]

One of my co-workers had a similar realization the last time that she went to one of the reservation casinos. She brought $100 to gamble with, and lost it all in about an hour. None of her friends were finished yet, so she wandered around and discovered some shops. She saw a great dress that she really wanted to buy, and it was just under $100. If she had seen the dress first, she would bought it instead of gambling.