Once again you fail to read.
You can defend who the **** you want... it doesn't mean you have to because surely, through this long thread you've come to realize that the Op is capable of defending herself.
No one was attacking her and No... she didn't quite get that she's not a victim until it was reiterated to her why she wasn't.
End of conversation: This was a good thread to (as you like to put it) "educate Newbies" on the workings of a player/love avoidant. Don't get it closed over your own ego and fear of being "wrong"
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion