Would you download porn at the office?

[Asip4u]

hahahahahahah..... do you know how often I see that damn message??? LOL

yea same here....sometimes, i feel like what's the point of typing so much especially when someone has already explained it so well...so i usually quote Hayward and/or shh!, they always give the best advice anyways.

[Rosebud]

lol.. I just like to laugh sometimes instead of saying a lot and I get that stupid message. grrrrrr!!

[Asip4u]

lol.. I just like to laugh sometimes instead of saying a lot and I get that stupid message. grrrrrr!!

That's why i liked the chat room for that...I felt weird just posting LOLOLOLOL.

[Rosebud]

I agree.. I keep trying to go in there but nobody follows so then I'm by myself and feel like a loser... LOl

[Asip4u]

I agree.. I keep trying to go in there but nobody follows so then I'm by myself and feel like a loser... LOl

lol...yea i did the same thing...I think next time i'll just PM people to go there instead of wait.

[Rosebud]

That's probably the smarter thing to do..LOL

[jendenovum]

We STILL havent talked about it yet. i will keep you posted. i am avoiding it because i dont want to fight. he will say its no big deal.

[Rosebud]

I wouldn't keep avoiding this if I were you, obviously it bothers you. And well if he says it's no big deal tell him it is to you and it would mean a lot for him to stop. It's the only attempt you have at resolving anything.

[jendenovum]

We JUST finally got around to talking about it tonight. He is adamant that there is NO problem. He knows that he "crossed the line (twice) and it won’t happen again.” He will make a “valiant effort” to ensure that it doesn’t. What kind of man with any self control has to make a f*cking valiant effort to not look at porn at work?

I love him and I want our marriage to work but I don't know what to do when he thinks that he will be able to control it himself. Apparently I am just overreacting and trying to punish him.

Blah.

[Rosebud]

We JUST finally got around to talking about it tonight. He is adamant that there is NO problem. He knows that he "crossed the line (twice) and it won’t happen again.” He will make a “valiant effort” to ensure that it doesn’t. What kind of man with any self control has to make a f*cking valiant effort to not look at porn at work?

I love him and I want our marriage to work but I don't know what to do when he thinks that he will be able to control it himself. Apparently I am just overreacting and trying to punish him.

Blah.

Well First off, he did say he would make an effort to stop doing this. I understand your frustration with him saying he will amke a valiant effort but he is trying and you have to give him credit for doing that without ridicule. But I would say if he doesn't stop and it is affecting your relationship with him and you are that worried about all of it then you have to make the choice of whether or not you want to stay with him. Sorry to say that! but I think it's true!

[jendenovum]

No, don't be sorry about anything. That's life. I already know that this situation sucks.

It's not that I am making fun of him. I am happy that he admitted that he felt terrible about it and that its not right, etc. It's just that he is in such denial. What kind of guy needs to REALLY TRY HARD to not download porn at work twice in the same week.

If he really felt THAT bad it never would have happened in the first place let alone twice. I think that he has an internet porn addiction, and those things get worse, not better.

I know I have some crappy times ahead. And i know plenty of people are thinking, "well then why did you marry him, you idiot?"

I thought that he was much better than he obviously is. Things had been great for 2 years. And now, starting one week before our wedding up until this current 4 month point, it has been nothing but surprise after surprise.

[Rosebud]

Well unfortunately sometimes people change after marriage. And I didn't want ti to come off as though I thought you were making fun of him I just think it's a natural thing that guys do. He doesn't realize how it has affected everything until now which is why he feels bad ( or so he says). By him not thinking it's a problem he's saying he's going to try becasue he doesn't think it's an issue so he's not going to make a promise he can't keep.