What do men in relationships really think when watching porn?

[tremolo]

Looking at porn is just an expression of all guys' desire for variety. Even if I'm dating the hottest girl in the city, a perfect 10, the kind that all other women HATE because she's so beautiful, guess what I will STILL look at other women. That's just the way it is. It doesn't necessarily mean he does not find you attractive. It does not mean he's in love with some porn star. It does not mean anything, other than he's a normal guy. I know it makes some women insecure but looking at porn is not intended in any way as a judgement on your physical attractiveness.

This is what I hate about men. You could have ****ing Adriana Lima and you'd still be discontent. It boggles my mind.

[Wakeup]

This is what I hate about men. You could have ****ing Adriana Lima and you'd still be discontent. It boggles my mind.

It's not discontentment. He can be as content with you perfectly fine and he'd still look at other women and porn. Surely once you yourself are in a relationship you don't stop looking at members of the opposite sex.

I think it boggles your mind because you equate porn to his being discontent when the two have absolutely nothing to do with one another.

[tremolo]

It's not discontentment. He can be as content with you perfectly fine and he'd still look at other women and porn. Surely once you yourself are in a relationship you don't stop looking at members of the opposite sex.

I *look* at other men, but I don't go home and masturbate myself into a frenzy over other men. All I do is look. That is a really big difference.

[Wakeup]

I *look* at other men, but I don't go home and masturbate myself into a frenzy over other men. All I do is look. That is a really big difference.

Why do you think that men masturbate themselves into "a frenzy?" And, why is it okay to masturbate without a visual but not okay with a visual? I'm seriously curious as to why you (and other woman) are threatened by porn that your men are not personally interacting in? (such as with a cam whore that he and she can talk together while masturbating and it becomes a form of cheating and relationship boundary crossing)

[tremolo]

I'm offended that when I am with someone, I really only think about him when I fantasize, while he likely thinks about everyone but me. That is what bothers me. And I suppose the visuals just reinforce that he wants someone other than myself. I know it's natural - for men, not women - but having to be confronted with that in such a concrete way is really upsetting sometimes.

[smackie9]

Softcore porn (no visible penetration) is a safe bet. They can't possibly be making those movies for just guys to watch.

Soft porn is a waste of time....I want the real stuff! lol!

[smackie9]

I'm offended that when I am with someone, I really only think about him when I fantasize, while he likely thinks about everyone but me. That is what bothers me. And I suppose the visuals just reinforce that he wants someone other than myself. I know it's natural - for men, not women - but having to be confronted with that in such a concrete way is really upsetting sometimes.

It's natural for both men and women don't kid yourself....whatever goes on in ones head is nobody's business their your own. It's not cheating. People fantasize and it's healthy.....whatever can get you in the mood.

[tremolo]

If it was just in his head, I wouldn't mind. When it's on the computer, in magazines, in HD.... then I get upset.

[tremolo]

Also - if I cannot get my partner in the mood, I would rather not be with him. He ought to be with someone who can get him in the mood, IMO.

[Bonfire]

This is what I hate about men. You could have ****ing Adriana Lima and you'd still be discontent. It boggles my mind.

I can't speak for all men, but I know I can speak for myself. When I am in love with a woman, I have no interest in looking at other women, none. That's just the way I have always been. I'm pretty sure I'm not alone, there are others out there.

[pisces25]

Bonfire, marry me?

[tremolo]

Yeah, ditto that.

[Bonfire]

Bonfire, marry me?

I don't plan to get married. But you are more than welcome to try and change my mind.

[Wakeup]

I don't plan to get married. But you are more than welcome to try and change my mind.

What a hoot. The only guy in the entire thread who confesses that he only looks at the girl he's in love with never plans on marrying. Trem.. I think you're fighting a losing battle with yourself. Try to stop your mind from making you jealous over strangers with fake boobs.

[VincenzoG91]

I have just deduced that Bonfire is not Hugh Hefner.