Originally Posted by
LisaW
Actually privately, I have gotten a few messages saying they experimented with consensual sex with a sibling. For obvious reasons, they don't want to talk about it publicly, and I now understand why. It was something that happened as kids, it ended, and they moved on. There is no reason for them to talk about publicly when 1) they will be accused of being a sexual criminal for the rest of their life or 2) a rape victim that's need serious mental help. And most likely accused of being a troll by a few others. If the pictures\video had not been his sister, but a girl friend, I suspect a few would still think he has grown up to be sexual criminal stalking young girls late at night, but I think most level headed people would see it as a mutual mistake made by him and his girlfriend. If it had been a girlfriend, I suspect he would have told me about it, but since it was his sister, maybe they mutually agreed that it was a private matter between them, and there no need to confess it to others. I do fully agree that he should have gotten rid of the pictures\video (I wish he had, and I never had seen them), clearly that was his intent before giving me the laptop. He's not a tech type person, so it does not surprise me that he didn't know that deleting files just means they go into the trashcan, or if he did know, he just forgot to empty the trash. Maybe he totally forgot those files were even on the laptop and he simply deleted a 100s of pictures all at once, not even knowing those pictures there. Like I said in a previous post, finding the pictures doesn't suddenly explain anything; there's no strange behavior like him sneaking off for hours in the middle of night, coming back, and saying "I was at the library" nor other creepy unexplained behavior. I suppose that just makes some even more paranoid that he is just really really good at having a secret life since, in their mind, he has been doing untold evil acts since the age of 13.