Hang on a minute,Your sex was consentual....It takes two people to play the game. You had every oppurtunity to leave....just food for thought, thats all.Originally Posted by curiousgirly
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25-08-11, 02:29 AM #76
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25-08-11, 02:58 AM #77
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Whether it was consentual or not has nothing to do with whether someone has been played or not. Originally Posted by rafterman
I'm thinking that all depends on whether or not he's been disingenuous to her prior to having consentual sex. Do you honestly think a guy that lies about his marital status as being single or divorced but he's still married (as an example) doesn't make him a player (or her been played) just because she agreed to **** him while thinking he was available?“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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25-08-11, 04:09 AM #78
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Ok... I just got my confirmation. He is not a player!! Originally Posted by Wakeup
He called me and we had a good talk about what happened. He was upset with himself and wants to make it up to me... He says he felt ignored cos i didnt listen to his pleas for me to stay over. He is taking me out on Friday and wants us to talk more as opposed to texting!
So I take back all the bad things I said!!!
Thanks for the advice!
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25-08-11, 04:12 AM #79
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He sounds needy and insecure. You're in for a ride. Originally Posted by curiousgirly
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley
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25-08-11, 04:40 AM #80
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Well... That's still better than him being a player...isn't it?? Originally Posted by Cerby
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25-08-11, 05:16 AM #81
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Originally Posted by curiousgirly
Good luck. Just remember everything you've learned here (and I'm not saying just from me) so that you don't get desperate and ignore red flags because you want this to work so badly that you'll overlook bad behaviour. Just because he's "upset with himself" doesn't mean he has to make you feel like you've done something wrong or punish you for his shitty feelings.
I wonder how he wants to "make it up to you?" ...“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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25-08-11, 05:21 AM #82
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Lol... Wakeup, seems like you really don't have a good opinion of this dude! And I know where you are going with that question...
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25-08-11, 05:25 AM #83
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Short term yes, long term no. Originally Posted by curiousgirly
"All is fair in love and war." - Francis Edward Smedley
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25-08-11, 05:26 AM #84
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nah... I don't know him, hun. I'v just read too many online stories that have ended up crappy and I'm extending the knowledge onto you that I've read about in the past as well as stories from a couple of my single friends who have been burnt.
One was a guy who thought he was in a full blown, exclusive relationship until about the third month in when she told him she wouldn't be able to see him that weekend because it was the weekend she was getting married but she'd be back from her honeymoon the following weekend and maybe they could do something then. True Story.Last edited by Wakeup; 25-08-11 at 06:07 AM. Reason: screwed up a sentence
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25-08-11, 07:22 AM #85
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OMG!! That is really bad! How can she live with such lies?! Originally Posted by Wakeup
I think many people who wouldn't have had easy access to cheat are now cheating because of these online dating sites. The old fashioned boy meets girl days are pretty much over though. It's so hard to actually meet normal people these days without going out of ones way...
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25-08-11, 07:25 AM #86
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HOLE. EEEEEEEE. SHIT. o.O Originally Posted by Wakeup
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26-08-11, 03:16 PM #87
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How sweet, "a really nice virgo man."
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Update: All those who said he was a player or was no good... ie. an AHOLE.... you were right! He was no good... I've moved on from this experience... and I'll never do anything that dumb again
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What happened?
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Yeah, what happened?
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