Originally Posted by
love&otherdrugs
You're right. Later that afternoon I responded with this:
Hey J***,
I appreciate your wishing me a happy birthday, however, receiving messages from you is still a painful reminder of the ending of our relationship.
I'd appreciate it if you would please not contact me any further unless it is for reconciliation purposes.
Best Regards,
S***
It's weird, I sent the email and started tearing up. I wasn't sad... in a way I was relieved, because after I sent that email came a sense of conclusion and peace. It was overwhelming and reassuring at the same time to know I had finally closed that door of subconsciously waiting for him to contact me on the next holiday. He didn't respond, but I'm actually OK with that. I said what I needed to, and made myself boundaries so that I can heal.
It was a meaningless email from him, but I'm not going to let myself be bombarded with meaningless reminders because he feels obligated or is trying to be nice.