Is it 'okay' to seek a sex partner if spouse is forever severely disabled/incapable

[Junket]

This is modern day, there are married couples that even keep separate sex partners. If both couples are okay with it, why not?

[Cain]

I know that if I become a vegetable and I'm being kept alive by a feeding tube, I want the tube removed. I don't want to live my life that way.

I was talking to my gf about this again yesterday and I told her that if I was a vegetable that I'd want her to move on and find someone else that can make her happy. I wasn't saying to find a new lover... I was saying to end "us" and find a new partner.

She didn't like that idea very much and made me stop talking about it. Her response to me was "no, I couldn't do that."

I can kind of understand where she's coming from though. In all honesty, I don't know what I'd do in this situation, but I just can't imagine myself leaving her side no matter what happened.

[misombra]

so what's more cruel? leaving the side of a disabled partner, or having having somebody on the side to "DO IT" with.

[Cain]

so what's more cruel? leaving the side of a disabled partner, or having having somebody on the side to "DO IT" with.

I don't know.

The issue here is that I don't view sex as just some physical release. I know that most people do, but I don't. I view it as more of an emotional experience and if I were able to have that connection with someone else, I'd feel like I abandoned her whether we were still officially together or not.

[DoesntMatter]

The issue here is that I don't view sex as just some physical release. I know that most people do, but I don't. I view it as more of an emotional experience and if I were able to have that connection with someone else, I'd feel like I abandoned her whether we were still officially together or not.

Wow, what a pussy

[Cain]

Wow, what a pussy

At least I get laid, virgin.

[DoesntMatter]

At least I get laid, virgin.

At least my refractory period is a negative number

[Cain]

Too bad you only get to enjoy it with your hand.

[DoesntMatter]

At least my hand knows my body better than any girl

[Junket]

I f*cked my girlfriend last night.

[DoesntMatter]

My orgo test fuucked me last night

[Cain]

At least my hand knows my body better than any girl

It's also the closest you'll ever get to a girl without first saying, "Do I pay you now or later?"

[DoesntMatter]

It's also the closest you'll ever get to a girl without first saying, "Do I pay you now or later?"

That's because you pay first, with the money conspicuously counted out in an envelope in plain sight. Common knowledge not to ask that question

[lesa]

I don't know.

The issue here is that I don't view sex as just some physical release. I know that most people do, but I don't. I view it as more of an emotional experience and if I were able to have that connection with someone else, I'd feel like I abandoned her whether we were still officially together or not.

I agree that sexual intercourse is not always just for physical release. It can be an emotional bond...and lovemaking can be an emotional bond IMO.

However, I cannot picture this below as a loving emotional bond...(depends on what you mean by emotional experience I suppose):

My girl lays there, but her moaning, scratching, grabbing, dirty talking, whispering... it all gets me going. Not only that, but I have handcuffs attached to the bed posts and sometimes she likes to handcuff me and take control. She'll tell me to pull her hair, call her some dirty names, or choke her... though she's not actively moving around, she's still participating and it's soooo much more enjoyable.

This here is what I like to call 'fu**ing.

[Junket]

However, I cannot picture this below as a loving emotional bond...(depends on what you mean by emotional experience I suppose):

You have to be pretty trusting of someone if you want them to choke you and call you a dirty slut while you're hands are tied.