my gut has been pitted.

[Gigabitch]

He also should've pulled his friend aside and told him to shut his mouth before things got ugly.

I agree with this. Mike ****ed with the stability of the foundation of your relationship. His allegiance should be to YOU first. If you're not the kind of person he wants to be loyal to, then that's another issue, but he's been with you, as your man, for three years now. He has no business pulling this "bros before hos" shit and now trying to weasel out of it.

I'm pissed. I'm coming down there...

[Kiechi]

Pressure from who, and to do what?

Aww well, who cares if he is lying anyway.

I vote you boot his ass out and rescue Tone from the hellhole he is living in.

I agree... I don't know how long you two have been together, but I imagine I'm one who's not one to forget. AND I know if something like this happened to me (abiet situation be diff due to gender), I don't think I'd be able to forgive my partner for taking a friends side over mine and yelling at me. Also, the whole "I got to escape thing" is gay and so melodramatic. The fact that this inccident has caused him to contemplate "escaping" (keyword) speaks volumes to me.

[Mish]

mikey was mad because i confronted him in front of people, and he felt like i was disrespecting him and his company.

yeah, i was disrespecting him and his company.

he says i should've pulled him aside and talked about it instead of "causing a scene."

but he did understand how hurt i was. and said he told his friend how stupid what he said was too.

i don't even have the energy to be mad about it. the guy's just lucky i didn't shoot him in his knees, that's what my grandfather would've done.

Sounds to me like what you need to do is setup some solid boundaries with him so this kind of stuff doesn't happen in the future. Now is the time imo to talk about what will happen if the situation was to-reoccur again.

[Tone]

I agree with this. Mike ****ed with the stability of the foundation of your relationship. His allegiance should be to YOU first. If you're not the kind of person he wants to be loyal to, then that's another issue, but he's been with you, as your man, for three years now. He has no business pulling this "bros before hos" shit and now trying to weasel out of it.

No kidding.

I don't see his weak apology as making things better either, but when you want to be with someone you'll find any excuse to do so even when you know they're in the wrong.

We've all been there.

[squirrley]

Some men are just idiots.

[misombra]

men are just idiots.

there, i fixed it.


i think he understands he was wrong. he and his friend feel like total assholes. mikey knows if he doesn't stick up for me next time, he's going to need defending. a lot of defending.

and his friend knows how not to talk to me and that i won't take his shit just because i'm female.

mikey is taking me out and buying me gifts. if it didn't hurt his heart, it's definitely going to hurt his pocketbook. but i do believe it hurt him, and that in retrospect he knows he should've come to my defense.

[squirrley]

I'm glad he sees he did wrong and is trying to make up for it. Sometimes it takes a moment to see where your relationship stands and where lines need to be drawn. 3years is a long time and you become very comfortable in it, but I'm glad that part is over with it!

You better hurt his damn wallet!

[shh!]

Make that wallet hurt a lot!

[anachronistic]

Women sure do like to fight.

[misombra]

lilwang sure is helpful.

[anachronistic]

Why thank you misombra, you're the epitome of how a woman should be.

[anachronistic]

Besides, you're doing it wrong. Have him buy a one way plane ticket and have Tone shipped to your house. Then boot his ass out.

[misombra]

ugh, why must you guys remind me of my love for tony. it doesn't really help. i'm sorry.

or i guess i should say it doesn't make things easier. ::sigh::tony::

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that one's for you, isoul.

[IndiReloaded]

mikey is taking me out and buying me gifts. if it didn't hurt his heart, it's definitely going to hurt his pocketbook. but i do believe it hurt him, and that in retrospect he knows he should've come to my defense.

Its Mikey's way of making things up to you. Let him. His 'friend' is a dick, btw, and needs to be taught a lesson by you the next time he's in your house. Subtle is best, like having him *do* something for you when he's next in your home. Have him clean the toilet or something, make it sound like a joke but then throw him for a loop by telling him you're serious & make him actually do it. He needs to understand that he needs to respect you in your own home.

[bluesummer]

Why isn't his friend apologizing to you if he feels so badly about it?