Bothered by a guy (loooooong!!!)

[Charlie Boy II]

Its all escalated cause i pissed him off :S

are you serious?? It escalated because he's a nutter.

[qwertz]

yeh i know that but maybe i went about things the wrong way..i dunno i just never imagined for one minute he would get like this.

[Charlie Boy II]

^^^^

?????

[qwertz]

Im not sure what i mean by that lol...maybe been a bit more harsh when he first started making it obvious he liked me. I was just trying not to hurt his feelings

[Charlie Boy II]

the guy's f-cking nuts. it's utterly pointless to think about what you could have done differently.

[lhn]

True fruitloop.

Don't back down. If he carries on, tell the police again. He'll soon move on!

[qwertz]

the guy's f-cking nuts. it's utterly pointless to think about what you could have done differently.

I know, i know. I just feel shit about the whole thing at the min..i even stayed at my desk all lunch and didnt go to the canteen just to avoid seeing him

[Perryville]

Do you have any big-ass hairy friends, who would be able to "lean", on him, a little?

[Primo]

He's bound to have freaked out about it, maybe it'll sink in today while he's working and he'll get the idea and leave you alone. If not, just stay safe and keep reporting when he tries to or does contact you, to whoever is handling your case.

[qwertz]

Im hoping so. Im just staying out of his way in the meantime

[Primo]

That's the best you can do babe, report any stupid things he does and keep yourself tucked away and safe for awhile

[IndiReloaded]

I think ive made things much worse

Apparently the police went round to his this morning(they havnt phoned me to inform me like they said they would)

The road leading to my work entrance is really narrow and can only fit one car down it..by chance i ended up driving down the lane behind him- he saw me and stopped his car(its a deserted half mile in length country lane) so i had to stop behind him, he gets out(i lock my doors) and starts shouting at me saying how could i get the police involved and im a bitch(all the usual insults) this lasted about 5 mins so i held my hand on the horn and eventually he got back in his car and drove on.

What the hell have i got to do to make him leave me alone. I mustve slept about 2 hrs last night. Hes making me not want to go to bed and when i do i cant sleep through paranoia.
I feel sick to the stomach now and seriously wish i could quit my job(i cant and wont though)

I said the first month would be the worst. Do NOT under any circumstances speak to this guy. He's looking for the response. Its cold-turkey time now and his feel-good fantasy about you is in the process of being smashed. Fuking nut case.

Call the police again and tell them what happened. Remember, they can only do their job (protect & serve) if you tell them what happened. They won't be surprised, they have experience with this.

Does your phone have a camera? I would be taking pics out the yin-yang.

Oh, and tell your boss as well what happened on the way in. You need to start building a case against this guy. He needs to see a shrink asap.

Now would also be a good time to alert your guy-friends about this nutter.

[IndiReloaded]

Most of what we have said is here already, but some good tips about your mail, employer and such:

[url]http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/3583/tips_for_handling_a_stalker_ex.html?cat=17[/url]

[qwertz]

I have no intention of speaking to him. Yeh my phone has a camera..I didnt think this morning i couldve videod him at my car.

I didnt see him when i left work..not sure whether he had left or not, i didnt hang around to find out.

[IndiReloaded]

Just be extra vigilant. If your car is in an underground garage, park it out on the street where people are, etc. Keep your keys in your hand & get some mace. Your safety is worth more than the car and its insured if he goes nuts on it.