No price/cost != no standards.
I expect what Vashti said. I don't think that's unreasonable. I have a lot to offer as well. I would just like to have some experience of the ritual. It's how my parents were, and my dad is super chivalrous, so it's what I'm used to. I don't think that makes me a bad person who expects too much.
Besides, I think expecting nothing from people is the problem with today's society.
I think it depends on your definition of 'expectations', Vash.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
well of course, but we are talking about higher values then material. that's a whole new discussion, Vashti. I have great expectations of men as you know, but not financially. Money does not make a person. I have dated people of all leagues and circles, I have dated a mayor and a student, never would expect anything financial of either of them.
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
Again, there are professionals who think that the problem is the exact opposite. Many ppl expect too much and are unreasonable in their expectations.
I would encourage you to think about terms like 'entitlement' and 'personal responsibility' in the context of expectations if you want to arrive at a meaningful life philosophy.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
To the OP, I've got nothing against you because it is your decision. I think it's very good that you have self respect for yourself to only give it up to who you love. As for your original post, I just think we are different. I wasnt raised the way you were raised so I dont feel the same way. I understand that if I am invited somewhere that the person should pay, but I personally still like to add in something. It helps me from feeling uncomfortable. I am uncomfortable with a man paying for everything for me because I believe it would get thrown back in my face like "But I did this and that for you". I've actually been called a golddigger by an ex boyfriend in the past...and its super weird cuz I didnt even ask for money. I occasionaly was hungry and asked for somethin to eat, but thats it. I just go based off of personal experiences. But yes as stated before, to each their own. I just have my preference of adding my own two cents.
..::.*Love is giving someone the ability to break your heart but trusting them not to*.::..
The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness, can be trained to do most things
How you are raised only gives you a base. Are you saying you are forever closed to new ideas or ways of doing things b/c you are going to limit yourself to how you are raised?
You are 18, so I understand the mindset. But I would encourage you to stretch your mind a bit in the coming decade. It will help you in many areas, including, but not limited to relationships.
Oh, and something important to consider is the context of where various advice is coming from. Sources of info can be just as interesting as the actual info itself. Do a bit of research.
Just to be clear, tho, I didn't have a problem with your values, only the fact you were dishonest in how you chose to express them in the context of your date.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh
It's not that I'm ignoring them, it's that they're insulting. Telling me that I am a user because I want him to spend an extra $5 on me a week is not something I'll respond to.
Besides, I wasn't here to discuss expectations. I was here to discuss a potential awkward situation, that's it.