First Time Anal

[yolanda55]

Ok, I believe that some women enjoy anal. All I'm saying is, is that maybe you'd enjoy it as well? If you don't want anything in your butt, why should she?

[Cain]

Experimenting can be fun but why are the men so against anal penetration?

Some men don't mind it.

I'm against it for the same reason a lot of women are. I don't see how it would be enjoyable for me at all.

If my girl told me that she doesn't want to try it because she doesn't think she'd like it, I'd accept that and then move to the pussy.

[Cain]

Ok, I believe that some women enjoy anal. All I'm saying is, is that maybe you'd enjoy it as well? If you don't want anything in your butt, why should she?

So then I shouldn't let a woman swallow my cum then, right?

You're missing my point. I'm not saying that women are obligated to getting ****ed in the ass. I'm saying that what's wrong with asking if they are into it?

[yolanda55]

Cain, I'm just curious... did it even feel good?

[lesa]

like gerbil says, girls need to be penetrated.

or is it charlieboy that says that...?

Can I give him some various toys and items to penetrate/experiment and he just leave me alone. Do you think he would be okay with that?

[yolanda55]

As long as you drink her sex juices

[Cain]

Cain, I'm just curious... did it even feel good?

I've only done it once, but yes.

That doesn't mean I would do it if she didn't want to.

[Cain]

As long as you drink her sex juices

I think the problem is that women are afraid to say that something bothers them. Communicate!

If you don't want to do something, tell the guy. Don't expect him to do everything you do just because you were too scared to say you didn't want to.

[yolanda55]

It has nothing to do with being scared. I just think it's hypocritical to want to do her in the butt, but you would never let her put anything in your butt. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree.

[lesa]

Some men don't mind it.

I'm against it for the same reason a lot of women are. I don't see how it would be enjoyable for me at all.

If my girl told me that she doesn't want to try it because she doesn't think she'd like it, I'd accept that and then move to the pussy.

Because, according to the unwritten rules of society, men receiving 'anal' is thought of as gay, sodomitic, and repulsive.

Thanks guys. I was beginning to worry that most men just feel that most women should accept anal penetration simply because she's a woman and women are supposed to be penetrated anywhere and men are not.

Men, have you (woman have you performed) had sex and the woman slipped her finger in the man's butt. You'll be surprised at how much you like it

[Cain]

It has nothing to do with being scared. I just think it's hypocritical to want to do her in the butt, but you would never let her put anything in your butt. I think we're going to have to agree to disagree.

Then... say... no....

How difficult is that? It'd be hypocritical only if I said that you had to do it but I didn't. Simply asking if you would is NOT hypocritical.

[misombra]

Can I give him some various toys and items to penetrate/experiment and he just leave me alone. Do you think he would be okay with that?

i don't get it.

[lesa]

i don't get it.

Since he just likes to penetrate stuff and not into the 'love bond' I will just have him entertain himself with some neat toys (that are probably better in giving him the strong orgasms that he is seeking.) I'm not going to fake it like a porn star...I'll just watch.

[lesa]

Right, but how many guys want their buddies to know about that? None of them. It's all a social reputational crock of shit.

Yep when I posted that above (post #104) I just realize the real answer here. I thought the same thing and I understand better now.

Men are not going to talk about this stuff....

I do think if it was seen as the norm (or shown much more in hetero pornography) men would be a little bit more open...eventually. Well maybe not but I KNOW some must be telling their SO otherwise.

EDIT: I never watch porn so I am not sure what is being shown.

[Cain]

If you're influenced by porn, you're weak minded.

I don't understand why this is such a big deal. I don't want something inside of my ass not because I don't want to talk about it with others, but because I don't want something in my ass. It's simple. I give my girl the same right. If she doesn't want something in her ass, it'll never happen if she tells me.