Lol..so funny you mentioned that. She actually mentioned maybe going to a bar or just drinking together and in general, and I know almost for sure that she's not the type to fly off the handle when drinking. But she definitely wants to see a movie or a few soon. We made tentative plans to see "Man of Steel" and a showing of "Raiders of the Lost Ark" in following weeks.I am picturing that the guy is leaving pretty much right about now.
The best part about meeting her today is, I didn't feel retarded at any point. I felt pretty good when it was over and all was said and done.
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31-05-13, 05:25 AM #91
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31-05-13, 06:12 AM #92
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31-05-13, 08:08 AM #93
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I don't have to worry about it for another two weeks but when the times comes or if it comes prematurely, how exactly do I find out the guy has left??
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31-05-13, 09:14 PM #94
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Oh right; "Hey, has that guy you're seeing left?" is totally suave.
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01-06-13, 12:59 AM #96
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You ask when and if she brings him up. If she doesn't bring him up then don't you is my advice. Why do you want to know if he's gone anyway? Whether he's here or there doesn't make much difference if they're maintaining something long distance. Don't get too invested in this one until you know the score.
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01-06-13, 01:02 AM #97
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Well...how else would I know if I can try to move forward? For instance, what if she brings him up, maybe even says he's left: can I say something like, "Oh. Did you promise him that you'll wait for him?"
I mean, honestly; if it happens with this girl, it'd be vindication. Can't imagine a better girl to have something with, honestly. Asking for a phone number killed the conversation I started with the other girl, now it's just down to Skype girl and this.Last edited by YoungCosmo; 01-06-13 at 01:04 AM.
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01-06-13, 01:18 AM #98
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As i said to you before, you can't ask for a meet or a phone number too soon because you'll scare them off. These are young girls, not old seasoned veterans so you have to time it right in my opinion. You don't want to talk online for so long that you get false feelings for one another but you can't rush it either. It's a fine dance and when you've got a natural back and forth going, then that is a good time to ask to advance your connection.
What did you say to her and what did she say back to you that makes you think asking for her number scared her off?
The old friend girl is probably the least likely to be the girl you should be actively pursuing since she has told you that she is seeing someone and i think she's thinks you just want to hang as friends since you're old aquaintances. I could be wrong but i'm not wrong in telling you to stop investing so much thought and hope into her at this point. During conversation with her, you will be able to tell how invested she is in the other guy. Him leaving or not has little to do with the dynamic of their relationship (if there even is one).Last edited by Wakeup; 01-06-13 at 01:22 AM.
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Aw damn, I think you're right. Now it's down to one. The girl with whom I was having a nice conversation with that seemed to be interested decided to drop it after having asked.
Yeah, I guess I'll just not even try with the old friend. She told me she had been limited to her house in virtually all of the years since I last saw her because of knee surgeries. Now she wants to go out as much as possible these days, she said, since she's much better and has done things she wasn't able to do (bike, go to the mall, skateboard). She also really emphasized how much she would like to tag along when my friends and I go to the movies since she's REALLY into watching movies these days and this summer will probably have us all going to see quite a number of movies.
Guess I'll just be the fun, platonic friend. Goodie!"1,2,3,4.....The highway's jammed with broken heroes on a last chance power-drive!"
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01-06-13, 01:45 AM #100
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O.o nothing wrong with that as long as you don't start falling in love with her and she only wants friendship. You've read the stories here about that.Guess I'll just be the fun, platonic friend. Goodie!
Anyway; What do you mean the other girl "decided to drop it" after being asked? Does she just not respond now or did she tell you outright that she didn't think you were a good match?“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
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Lol, what am I complaining about? I lament the fact that I'm permanently friendzone'ed but at least I've got another friend for the best summer I'm planning to ever have. I think I can handle this better than most guys; I don't really have any expectation for entering a relationship or hooking up with a girl, anyway.Seems like a pipe dream.
Oh, no, she did the typical thing: read, ignored. It's pretty obvious by now that she didn't like the thought of someone wanting to meet up with her. Her profile didn't say anything about meeting anyone except in retrospect perhaps implying only an online friendship.."1,2,3,4.....The highway's jammed with broken heroes on a last chance power-drive!"
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01-06-13, 01:56 AM #102
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Cool... you're maturing before our eyes.
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Ask her to hook you up with a friend
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Yeah, I should try that huh? How would you phrase that? I think I'll give it a shot. This is my "all-or-nothing" summer; trying desperately to end the summer having gone on at least one date. Otherwise, no matter how much fun I've had, it will end up being a failure.
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lol the amount of insecurity here
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