Need some Ideas!

[Mish]

I don't REALLY have moobs!

Tone, you're in denial. We've seen the evidence!

[Tone]

Blackmail eh?

So this is how you're going to play......

[Rosebud]

HAHA so I gave my mirror a strip tease last night! At frist I felt kinda funny but then I just imagined i was dancing to music and everything was all good. LOL, still looking for a good french maid outfit.

Ya know I asked him out of the blue last night where he saw himself in 20 years and he said he never thinks that far ahead so i said 10 and he said he had no idea and then asked me and I told him what I thought. I guess I can understand why he said that but I can't help think it means he doesn't have any goals set for himself. I think I'm going tto pry a little more on some of these things to get us back to our long conversations again. We talk so much about ever day things but haven't really talked about things we want and would like in our future aside from ourselves.

[Tone]

RoseB, I admit when you said you strip tease in front of the mirror, I found it a little hot.

Come into the chat with us, b t w .

[Junsui]

lol I'm glad the dancing in front of the mirror is working out for you. French Maid outfit shouldn't be too hard to find. Might have been easier to get one before Halloween. I understand you being concerned about him not knowing where he sees himself in 10 years, but I would have started off asking where he saw himself in 5 years.

[Rosebud]

yeah, I thought of that after the fact.. But I will pry some more and see where we get. I'll just find other things to ask to make him really think aboutt hem.

[Junsui]

Sounds good! Always gotta keep them thinking.

[Rosebud]

Yeah. Maybe this will help a little. At least to find out if he has any goals. I asked him if he had anymore fantasies and he said no. I think sometimes he feels he can't talk to me anymore for some reason. I know everyone has a fantasy. hmm, oh well maybe I'll accomplish something this weekend.

[Asip4u]

Dont' worry about the where he sees himself in 10 years or so Rosebud. Most guys have no clue anyways. Take it slow and the picture will start becoming clearer.

[Junsui]

I don't even know where I see myself in 10 years! That's why I suggested asking about in 5 years

[Asip4u]

I don't even know where I see myself in 10 years! That's why I suggested asking about in 5 years

Yea...I'd suggest next year..hehe

[Rosebud]

LOL, Yeah I know he never really looks into the future like that and it really didn't worry me, it's just the fact that I want him to have goals for himself. He looks at everything from such a negative stand point and if he could set something so he could achieve it, that would make him feel better and in tunr make me feel better.

[independent]

I havent had a chance to read through the whole thread yet (forgive me)... but here are two suggestions I wanted to know if you'd considered yet:

- Get a radical new haircut or hairstyle

- Go shopping, and get a few things that look HOT on you

That usually turns your mans head

Not just that they find you incredibly attractive all over again... but things like that get a mans attention pretty quick in that they start to wonder "hmmm... what's up with her??".

[independent]

By the way - I know exactly where I want to be in 10 years. And I intend to be there. Any man that I cant picture fitting my vision (that I am serious with, anyway) is outta here.

So I take it YOU already know where YOU want to be in 10 years, 20 years...

Maybe in the answer to those questions you are looking for security?

[whaywardj]

I can relate a little to these situations. I don't think continuos emphasis on just the physical aspects of a sexual relationship is enough to alleviate boredom and routine (They are actually contributing factors to such), it's only a matter of time until the new physical excitement catalyst becomes old news. From my experience anyway. Then I discovered ways of emotional expression through these physical acts and personaly found it a lot more gratifying and longer lasting than preoccupation with body parts and pieces of clothing (shallowness of which becomes apparent after over use)

Blah, blah blah, blah blah. Blah? Blah-blah! Blah, blah-blah-blah, blah blah. Blah...blah blah blah. Blah blah blah blah. Blah.

How about bringing all that down to earth a little bit so the rest of us can poke at it with sticks a little just to see how it wiggles?