I had an affair

[lovestruck]

IM Sorry, but this really pisses me off! Yeah you have a point, but one thing for sire.. my child will never come second! I may not know what for sure I want right now.. but my baby is everything. I will always have regrets but I will never compromise my childs well being because of them!
Yeah, it seems like I'm trying to look for excuses to cover up my bull**** and maybe I am.. BUT AGAIN, I WILL ALWAYS PUT MY CHILD FIRST!
I'm trying to work things out with John. For the sake of our son and for the love we had/have.
I'm trying. Believe it or not. you won't hear any more self ptty rubbish from me anymore.

[carpflounder]

IM Sorry, but this really pisses me off! Yeah you have a point, but one thing for sire.. my child will never come second!

Yeah I bet when you were screwing that other guy..you were thinking about your child.

[Ellynn]

Ok, honestly if YOU are unhappy..and you feel its both in your best interest....as well as your childs...to split from this guy you are with....then do it....
As a child who grew up in a house that was full of tension......I know that ...ThAT alone can be stressful....feeling how unhappy your parents are.... And the funny thing is once they got divorced.....I got to know each other individually and got to see them happy....and they eventually became friends....and all was good. It might sound selfish of them to split up....but I know now it was for the best...
My dad cheated on my mom....and even though I was very upset to hear that...there was a reason. My mom lost interest in him all together not long after I was born.... So that played a huge part.... Not saying it was all my dads fault or my moms....they both were at fault..and just drifted apart. It happens...and as I got older.I learned to forgive my dad for what he did... and I must say he was ALWAYS there for me. I realized as I got older that people make mistakes....that can cost them alot. But hey sh*t happens...and you just deal with it.

Even though walking away from the relationship will NOT be easy.....and might have alot of drawbacks....the main thing is that you are both there for your child...

You only go around once in life....so make the best of it....

I realize you are trying to make things work....which I do encourage if there is a possibility for that to happen...but if there isn't.....then don't. My parents tried for years. I didn't realize it back then...until I got to be much older.... But honestly it was better with them not being together...and I feel I still had a good childhood because BOTH of my parents were there for me.. That was the main thing.

[Mish]

My dad cheated on my mom....and even though I was very upset to hear that...there was a reason. My mom lost interest in him all together not long after I was born....

That's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that Ellynn. How old were your parents when they had you? I'd find it really tough dealing with my parents individually if that would ever happen to me...

I can understand their situation however, seeing how they were both in the wrong. In this particular situation with lovestruck though, I can't help but feel sorry for the guy. She lost interest in him and she cheated on him and will probably do it again. He works to provide for his family oblivious to the fact that he is being used in this way. Very, very tragic....

Lovestruck, have you thought about the possibillity that if you treat him this way and then leave him, he might actually keep custody of the baby?

[Ellynn]

My mom was 34...and my dad was 33....

[lovestruck]

Urghhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Apache]

Wow....this thread is still going?
Maybe its time to buy the rights...