Male Ego and Insecurity

[Gigabitch]

Is excessive flirtiness (tho not cheating) a deal breaker, Gig?

Nah, only if it results in cheating.

Cheating results in beating.

[IndiReloaded]

Nah, only if it results in cheating.

Cheating results in beating.

Really? Cheating doesn't result in leaving?

Well, then you are good to go. Isn't this 'problem solved & thanks for the vent?'

New term for posts: VONLA = vent only, not looking for answer.

[Gigabitch]

Oh, allow me to clarify: The beating is administered by two goons while I busily pile all of his things into his car and then set them on fire, Waiting to Exhale style.

I guess VONLA, since nothing can really answer this question but time.

[Junket]

Oh noes Frasbee! What's little Amy gonna do when she finds out you've been having fantasies about sleeping with - er... sleeping next to other women!?

Laugh.

I was in tired mode and felt the guilt left over from the dream when I woke and told her while I was half asleep.

"Was she hot?"

"No...she was actually rather plain."

"What?! You cheated on me with "Plain Girl"?? She could've at least been a super model or something!"

[Mathias]

Oh, allow me to clarify: The beating is administered by two goons while I busily pile all of his things into his car and then set them on fire, Waiting to Exhale style.

I guess VONLA, since nothing can really answer this question but time.

Everything you own in a box to the left?

[IndiReloaded]

Oh, allow me to clarify: The beating is administered by two goons while I busily pile all of his things into his car and then set them on fire, Waiting to Exhale style.

Hahahahaha!

[Mish]

Nah, only if it results in cheating.

Cheating results in beating.

And if there is no cheating? Will you continue to be confused and unsure about the relationship forever?

[Gigabitch]

No, I think we'll have an exhaustive conversation about the nature of commitment before I agree to do anything binding. If I am dissatisfied with the outcome of the conversation, there will be no binding. And no breeding.

[misombra]

that's good giga. you deserve better. i say everybody has one inherent "thing" that gets them in trouble all the time or holds them back.

they can be worked out. emphasis on the "work" part. sometimes you have to fight and have blow outs to get things stirred up. after the dust settles things are fine.

but even if he doesn't cheat, that kind of behavior is not acceptable.

remember last year for new years when my bf spent half the evening talking to a group of girls at the bar while i sat there bored with his friends? i had to, as indi would say, nip that shit in the bud. that meant causing a scene. yes you heard me, i caused a scene and i didn't care. i let him know very loudly and very clearly that it didn't matter if it was social and friendly, it is wrong. i asked him how he would feel if i found a group of guys at the bar and hung out with them all night. he thought about it and decided that it wasn't going to happen any more.

after that, misombra makes the plans for new year. and none of them involve a bar.

it was a fight. on new years. in front of all his friends. and they all agreed with me. and they're all scared of me.

[IndiReloaded]

i let him know very loudly and very clearly that it didn't matter if it was social and friendly, it is wrong. i asked him how he would feel if i found a group of guys at the bar and hung out with them all night. he thought about it and decided that it wasn't going to happen any more.

after that, misombra makes the plans for new year. and none of them involve a bar.

it was a fight. on new years. in front of all his friends. and they all agreed with me. and they're all scared of me.

Yeeeaaah baby.

[wxyz00]

Dump him. Do you really need to put with this insecure attention whore for the rest of your life?? Not only is he effecting your emotional and mental stability but hampering your social life as well. How many more apologetic phone calls from your friends and family before you realize you have none left because of him??

[IndiReloaded]

Dump him. Do you really need to put with this insecure attention whore for the rest of your life?? Not only is he effecting your emotional and mental stability but hampering your social life as well. How many more apologetic phone calls from your friends and family before you realize you have none left because of him??

Wow. Well, from the mouths of babes...

[Junket]

Dump him. Do you really need to put with this insecure attention whore for the rest of your life?? Not only is he effecting your emotional and mental stability but hampering your social life as well. How many more apologetic phone calls from your friends and family before you realize you have none left because of him??

This is why I don't like posting my threads in the public forum, you get people who don't know shit trying to advise you.

[IndiReloaded]

I think the advice was well-meant and... well, sure there's context missing, but it bears some thought that this is the opinion of someone w/o a vested interest in the issue weighing in.

A lot of us are partial to Giga's happiness, so that may cloud our judgement?

[wxyz00]

@Frasbee

considering you claim to be the knower of all "shit".... i'm surprised you've added nothing meaningful to this discussion but cheese sticks, couple of rundown proverbs and random questions pertaining to your curiosity about someone's sex life. Now may be humor is your way out of problems but its not exactly practical...
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and practically/logically... crazy sex is a high price to pay for a boyfriend who:
a) flirts excessively repeatedly (in front of you)
b) continues to flirt excessively even after you have confronted him
c) flirts to the point where there's another woman's tongue in his mouth
d) is completely oblivious to the fact that he is doing something wrong

and more importantly, knowing the fact that you cannot change him..... i don't know.... rationally, pretty good signs for a rocky/stressful relationship.... which somebody who knows there shit will not recommend