I cannot attract women.

**Franklin** · 24-12-09, 05:48 AM

Originally Posted by BoredGeorge

Stop dressing like a ten year old and eat an adult male diet. It might help.

I do eat an adult male diet. I wear clothes that are for my age. I don't wear sports apparel all of the time.

**whaywardj** · 24-12-09, 06:45 AM

Whew. Franklin, yours is probably the most thorough profile I've ever seen anyone offer on this board. I wonder if you aim such laser-like scrutiny on people you meet (women) as you aim on yourself? If so, I'd be in a real hurry to get as far away from you as I could, regardless of looks. No one likes what appears to be hyper-criticality aimed at them, however subtly or unintentional.

**808** · 24-12-09, 07:56 AM

Ok Franklin heres the deal my man:

Your ears may be funny looking but your not an ugly dude overall (just work out a little).
Ditch the sports gear. Wearing sports gear and getting women are mutually exclusive (joking but not really).
Read fashion blogs for non-ghetto black guys ie. freshnessmag.com / complex.com

The one thing that I've learned about girls is that GOOD LOOKS ONLY GET YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR, it's all personality from there. So relax, chill out around girls, be funny, cool, make them feel good (not in a creepy way!!!). When your talking to girls smile, look at their eyes, just be cool.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Don't be so picky with girls. Don't give up on girls, but don't make getting one your focus of life.

Getting girls is not a problem for me now, but it used to be. Don't fall to fast into the friend zone but IT IS GOOD TO HAVE GIRL FRIENDS. They can help you out with your image, setting you up with friends.

Last but not least, your in college, every waking moment is a chance to meet a new girl. Go to the library, sit down with one, and remember YOU HAVE TAKEN, AND GOTTEN AND A, IN EVERY CLASS ON CAMPUS

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PS. Wait for your beloved vikings to win the superbowl, then you can rock the sports gear for a week without question!

**Franklin** · 25-12-09, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by 808

The one thing that I've learned about girls is that GOOD LOOKS ONLY GET YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR, it's all personality from there. So relax, chill out around girls, be funny, cool, make them feel good (not in a creepy way!!!). When your talking to girls smile, look at their eyes, just be cool.

I do these things, and not even the worst looking girls in school would go with me.

**808** · 25-12-09, 11:28 PM

Franklin, you've gotta be doing something wrong. You come here for looking for help, people give you honest advice, and you don't take it into consideration. Did you come here just so people could tell you "You will never get a girl and will be lonely forever"? because that's not the case. Take the advice people give you and take a good look at yourself, you can't be doing everything right... or you would have a slew of women after you.

**ladyluna85** · 26-12-09, 12:12 AM

hiii....i dont think ur ugly.....i think u are so into what others say that ur missing out on enjoying ur life.....if u stop worring about how others see u, what others think, and live life like it is....some day she will come ur way and u'll be happy....but if u still into what others say she might come ur way and u might miss her.....

**BoredGeorge** · 26-12-09, 06:23 AM

Originally Posted by Franklin

I do eat an adult male diet. I wear clothes that are for my age. I don't wear sports apparel all of the time.

Chicken is not a real food. Chicken is what women eat to make their breats large, and their buts bouncy.

Real men eat red meat for every single meal, including breakfast.

Sports apparel is for playing sport, under no situation should it be considered normal wear. You just make yourself look 10 years old.

**BoredGeorge** · 26-12-09, 06:25 AM

Originally Posted by 808

complex.com

GOOD LOOKS ONLY GET YOUR FOOT IN THE DOOR

Well I hardly want to use the backdoor and I'm assuming this includes third base ? If good looks will only get you in the front door, if that is all I want, then good looks are all I need ?

Also, the key to a womans heart is through the front door (everyone knows that) so it is really, a win win situation.

**Lozenger** · 26-12-09, 09:40 AM

Ok, Franklin, please read everything - i have read all of these pages - and i have even surfed the web to find help. Now, if you can at least take my advice that i am about to give it would be great. If you are a fun person, see it as a fun experiment and just try these small changes to see how things pan out - if it doesn't go too well - you can revert back to how you are currently. Agreed?
Ok, so first of all - i have some comments to make on some of your comments.
"5. She must dress nice. Wear respectable clean clothes." - Really? does that matter - because some people may not think you dress well.

"I just don't understand. I have no problems making friends." I don't think people were referring to your ability to make friends - it's just that's all they are right? Friends. I think people are saying how you give off the wrong "dating" vibe - maybe you come on too strong, or you're too forward. Perhaps without realising, you come right into peoples' personal space or that you seem "too" friendly. i.e. a guy that say's "hi, how are you?" every 5 seconds or shortly after finishing the first conversation.

"I just pose serious expressions for fun." Well there's a binary opposite - i suggest you pose "fun" expressions for fun instead

"I tried the smalls and mediums and they are too small. Either they are too short on my body or the sleeves are too short." Have you tried other stores? I know that where i am from not all smalls are the same size.

"What are my negative physical features?" - Don't even bother asking this - everyone has a bad feature- and you should concentrate on the good points.

"Not even the worst looking girls in school want me. " To be fair, have you asked each and every single one of them? If not, you can't possibly know that.

"15 to 20 times in a row. " You were referring to the number of times you have been rejected. If this is from 15 - 20 girls then woah! Are you saying that at only 20yrs old you have had 15-20 crushes on girls and have therefore asked out that many?! It seems a bit fast if that is the case - i mean, i am 2/3 years younger than you and i have only ever properly liked 1 guy and had 1 other crush. Try to really "see" people before giving up and "fancying someone else."

"I have decided to get surgery on my deformed ears. I believe it cost between $2500 and $4000. " - You go to Church right? Well, if God gave you those ears, i believe you should not throw it back in His face. Those ears are what makes you individual from the rest - it makes you more recognisable. There is a guy in my town with a bit of a deformity and everyone knows who he is - so assuming that a lot of people will know you by your ears - make sure they know you by your personality too - accept yourself.

"and because all of girls say that I am ugly." For your information - i don't recall everyone on here saying that you are ugly - so there - that rules that one out doesn't it?

Oh yeah, and where you said that you stopped watching cartoons and stuff - I only hope that you are not doing it in an attempt to appear more mature and thereby more attractive- because it isn't necessarily. I am not much younger than you and I STILL love to watch Family Guy (I mean, who wouldn't right?) I also watch The Simpsons, Futurama, Flash Forward, Gossip Girl, LOST, 24, (The OC when it was on) Gavin and Stacey, The Inbetweeners (A really good British comedy that I recommend to you) Skins, Scrubs and Friends + a lot more probably hehe! So yeah, always be yourself, even if some of you still is on the child side.

"I'm not comfortable with myself because of I always get rejected by women so something is wrong with me. " You make it sound like you think you are mentally retarded or something. The mind is extremely powerful and if you begin to think there is something wrong with you, there soon will be. It's called depression - and that can worsen if you tell yourself things like this - it can affect your abilities, your social life, your career, everything. There have even been cases where someone told themselves so many times that there was something wrong with them, that they started hallucinating and they started hearing voices of imaginary people telling them the same thing. It got so bad that they killed themselves.
So never think like this - everyone has their flaws - don't ignore them, work on improving yourself but mainly focus on your better traits.

Ok, so saying all of that I have an option for you. To at least TRY and change something about yourself to see if it makes a difference.
I personally think, that you would suit better in clothes from this site:
[url]http://us.topman.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/CategoryDisplay?catalogId=32052&storeId=13051&cate goryId=141466&langId=-1&top=Y[/url]

I'm not saying you look bad in your current attire, it's just - you are a young man now and in my eyes, your fashion doesn't make you look like one. Women love men that look wealthy and as though they have a high status - why? Because that is the sort of man that is most likely to provide well for her children. It's a psychological fact. I reckon from your pictures that your hair is just fine - it looks good as it is. And, with the right clothes, you too can look like a clean-shaven, wealthy young male

Really, though, try ordering a few items from that site, or ones similar at least to see how others react to it. Maybe even Hollister will do or Abercrombie and Fitch

When it comes to shirts, I reckon plain ones would suit you better than checked ones - and maybe when it comes to jeans, some skinnies or straight legs will look good I believe

I mean, this could be you but with glasses hmm?
[url]http://us.topman.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?beginIndex=0&viewAllFlag=&catalogId =32052&storeId=13051&categoryId=141469&parent_cate gory_rn=141466&productId=1384485&langId=-1[/url]
They even have hoodies and zips ups and stuff for a more casual look - but I am eager to see what you look like in new clothes

And did you know, scent plays a HUGE role in pulling power - I personally like the Jean Paul Gaultier Le Male or the Diesel one - just pick a nice one and make it your own - make it your signature scent so that when people smell it, they will know that you have been there

Make sure that you always have fresh smelling breath - so pop a few mints in your mouth every now and then. Brush your teeth twice a day but ALSO floss and use a mouth wash. Sometimes I do all this about 3/4 times a day.
And moisturize - it's not gay at all, plenty of men I know do this because it promotes well being and health.
Another thing, try not to think about dating at all - surely you know what everyone else knows? - That love can surprise us all - even the coldest of hearts. And that happiness often knocks at our door when we are not looking for it - because when we are not looking for it, we aren't feeling stressed about not having it either - and it's the same with love really. If you just live in the now and don't let yourself think about "why am I not getting this? Why is this only happening to me?", then before you know it - you will meet that one person who will fill you with so many butterflies that your world will feel like it has been shaken upside down

That's all I can think of saying right now - it is 2:30 in the morning where I am - I have stayed up just to help you so you better thank me

and at least take into consideration my advice - I mean come on! Have fun - try it - you may surprise yourself and find that you like it

Best wishes,
L
xxxx

**808** · 26-12-09, 09:58 AM

Originally Posted by BoredGeorge

Well I hardly want to use the backdoor and I'm assuming this includes third base ? If good looks will only get you in the front door, if that is all I want, then good looks are all I need ?

Also, the key to a womans heart is through the front door (everyone knows that) so it is really, a win win situation.

Valid point. but if Franklin wants a girl to take him the third base time and time again hes gotta have more than just looks... well maybe not. But looks aren't everything.

**Franklin** · 26-12-09, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by BoredGeorge

Chicken is not a real food. Chicken is what women eat to make their breats large, and their buts bouncy.

Real men eat red meat for every single meal, including breakfast.

Sports apparel is for playing sport, under no situation should it be considered normal wear. You just make yourself look 10 years old.

I don't wear sports apparel all of the time. All of the clothes I have gotten this month are not sports apparel.

Originally Posted by 808

Franklin, you've gotta be doing something wrong. You come here for looking for help, people give you honest advice, and you don't take it into consideration. Did you come here just so people could tell you "You will never get a girl and will be lonely forever"? because that's not the case. Take the advice people give you and take a good look at yourself, you can't be doing everything right... or you would have a slew of women after you.

I am trying to make changes. I have been trying for about over a year now. Nothing works.