I'm having sex with an older married woman... adivce please?

[vashti]

Obviously that woman has some MAJOR self esteem issues if she thinks it's cool to be a MILF...

I don't think you have been reading my posts closely enough, Vashti. And I don't think you have read the posts by the thread's creator well either. I think if you have, there wouldn't be such a misinterpretation.

If someone told me my Mother was a MILF when I was younger, why I would have punched them in the face. .

MILF is a modern term used to describe a Mother he'd LIKE to fuk. That doesn't necessarily mean he will get to - only that he'd like to. And yes, it IS a complimentary term. Only a mother's child would find that offensive, because you know - moms don't have sex. lol

There is nothing "obviously" wrong with a woman who enjoys being attractive to men of all ages.

[Charlie Boy II]

yeah I don't think MILF is offensive, maybe a little crude, but not offensive.

I think the term "cougar" is offensive. It denotes women past their prime and desperate.

[vashti]

Yeah, I'd much rather be referred to as a MILF than a cougar. Cougars are predatory.

[SirWagginston]

I don't think "cougar" implies desperation. Just confidence and straightforwardness. It's actually their predatory nature that makes them so hot, to me. Girls get to enjoy being chased, so why can't I?

[vashti]

You can, and I am sure there are plenty of women who don't mind being called a cougar (I don't think people who use that term mean anything hostile). I don't care to be looked at as the one doing the chasing. It's just not my style.

[Kelsey777]

MILF is a modern term used to describe a Mother he'd LIKE to fuk. That doesn't necessarily mean he will get to - only that he'd like to. And yes, it IS a complimentary term. Only a mother's child would find that offensive, because you know - moms don't have sex. lol

There is nothing "obviously" wrong with a woman who enjoys being attractive to men of all ages.

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Hahaha. I tell you and tell you, you don't get the point. If that was the case why not say, "Im very attractive." Skanky women refer to themselves as MILF's. That is my opinion. If you don't like it oh well. Get over it.

[Kelsey777]

And women men refer to as MILF's may not necessarily skanky....in this case...yes. I think you should spend more time focusing on the real points of the forums, and also, you obviously didn't understand my posts.

[vashti]

lol.... Apparently, no one understands your posts, not even you.

Did you, or did you not say "Obviously that woman has some MAJOR self esteem issues if she thinks it's cool to be a MILF"?

Get over yourself.

[Kelsey777]

I've never referred to myself as a MILF.....but have been called a MILF before.

Now then, I have to admit to being some what flattered by it, but these young lads who say it stand nooooo hope in hell in ever getting near me, lol.

I've never gone in for younger guys.

Yeah dude. I'd be flattered meself. Who on earth would be like, "Im a MILF" it's not about being horny, or being attractive. A woman can be all of that without referring to herself as a MILF? If a woman went up to you and was like hey, "Im a MILF" Wouldn't you be like this woman is skanky? I guess some think i'm wrong, but I do associate that with the pornographic fetish.

[SirWagginston]

Saying that people want to **** you is simply a stronger choice of words. Usually, when I say, "She's attractive," that means I don't see much value in her beyond that. If I say, "She's cute," that means she's attractive and I would like to date her, and if I say "She's sexy," that means I think she's attractive and furthermore a fun person. The status of being a MILF means that you can rock a younger man's world, and the younger guys know it. If you're never going to give it to them, they are dreaming about it. Surely that's flattering to know?

[Kelsey777]

Vashti Some women have major self esteem issues if they think its cool to be a MILF.
WHy? Because it's not beautiful, alluring, stunning, attractive, ravishing, sexually desirable, intelligent, sexy.

It's a degrading term. I understand why guys use it, and a woman with self respect does not refer to themselves as that. If you like to call yourself a MILF, that's your perogative.
It's not about women that age not being able to be corny.
If they want to have casual sex and their single, i find that acceptable.


My logic is sound, and that is my opinion. If you would refer to yourself as a MILF, I would say you have major issues. :-P

[vashti]

you aren't addressing the statement you originally made. I give up.

[Kelsey777]

Saying that people want to **** you is simply a stronger choice of words. Usually, when I say, "She's attractive," that means I don't see much value in her beyond that. If I say, "She's cute," that means she's attractive and I would like to date her, and if I say "She's sexy," that means I think she's attractive and furthermore a fun person. The status of being a MILF means that you can rock a younger man's world, and the younger guys know it. If you're never going to give it to them, they are dreaming about it. Surely that's flattering to know?

You make a valid point. I just really think that any respectable woman would not refer to herself as that. She may be flattered by being called it...but actually using it as a term of self image...I don't know any woman who would do that, that I find respectable.

[Kelsey777]

Kelsey, first you said that women like that have issues..Why is that? Because older women don't get horny and shouldn't think of themselves as hot? You also said that they are middle-aged sluts which just doesn't make any sense. That would mean they're doing one guy after another and that's just you using examples from porn which is pretty bad. Especially when they get older, women like to still feel attractive so if someone tells them that they are hot MILFS why should they not be happy about that? Why should they not go and have some fun especially if they are not attached to anyone else?

I agree with you Asip4u. I read earlier in the thread when the poster was describing his relationship with the woman, that she liked referring to herself that way. I can see why a term like that would be flattering. I also think a woman of any age should be able to enjoy a sex life, casual or not. I link the term to F*cking, or wanting to, and I understand why men would refer to a woman that way, but I don't see why a woman would call herself that. My Mother would have never called herself a MILF. I personally felt, that any woman who would refer to herself as a MILF, would definitely be a middle aged slut, and have problems, because any decent woman w ho would refer to herself as that has problems. That's my opinion.

Men degrade women who degrade themselves. So calling myself a MILF would be a step in that direction.

[Kelsey777]

you aren't addressing the statement you originally made. I give up.

I addressed it plenty. I think you got defensive thinking that "a woman shouldnt be flattered by being called a MILf," "older women don't deserve to feel sexy," "women can't enjoy sex at all ages." and Blah blah blah. I think I actually made sense. If you don't feel that way, oh well. Oh and how did I not adress the statement I made when I quoted it? in the post above.