could i have some advice please - getting a girl

[bluewahoo]

That seems a bit weird, not organising a time, she doesn't have a clue about the time and likes to be organised? :s

Should i drop a text saying still ok for tomorrow i'll pick you up at xxxx time....?

[bluewahoo]

anyone please?

[HeartIsAching]

No, don't be controlling about it. How about you send her a text with a suggestion - like "How about I pick you up at _____ time, does that work for you?

[bluewahoo]

Phoned her up, agreed a time and had a chat

[HeartIsAching]

Phoned her up, agreed a time and had a chat

Excellent! Keep us posted - and good luck.

[bluewahoo]

Yep i will do, was annoying cause i had to cut the phone conversation short! Much nicer than texting though!

[bluewahoo]

Hmm!

[Cerby]

Hmm!

Some more details would make your post useful.

[bluewahoo]

Day went ok, she had to be back early so couldn't get any food or drinks...

Texts seem to be delayed and short compared to normal though. Not sure! Said she had a nice time though :s

Wanna give up, but won't let myself lol.

Any ideas now?

[Cerby]

Wait, why wanna give up? Ask her out again! Wait until tomorrow and then follow up with something simple like:

"I had a good time yesterday, would you like to go out again?"

If her answer is yes, then you set a REAL date right away. If its no, then you don't need to "give up" because you gave it your best and it didn't work out.

[bluewahoo]

Just feels like its not going to happen, we're friends, thats where its going to stay.

When speaking yesterday i offered a lift when we're going out with friends and she said shes going to ask someone else because its easier. If she liked me she'd have agreed, even i can tell that!

Thanks for everyones help!

Oh well

[HeartIsAching]

I'd advise you to NOT give up so easily. Ask her out on a second date, and make sure she knows it's a date!

[bluewahoo]

Hmm, i'm not sure, some signals says she does like me, and others say the opposite.

We still talk, but its generally me starting the convorsations now, and like the things where she doesn't want a lift off me, just seems a bit weird...?

Going out in a big group this evening again, might try and sit next to her, relativly close to give a bit of a hint, or opposite her on the table or something etc...

We wont be alone, how can i drop some hints to a FRIEND that i like her?

Thanks again

[Cerby]

Just feels like its not going to happen, we're friends, thats where its going to stay.

When speaking yesterday i offered a lift when we're going out with friends and she said shes going to ask someone else because its easier. If she liked me she'd have agreed, even i can tell that!

Thanks for everyones help!

Oh well

Don't make assumptions, she might not have wanted to inconvenience you.

Like HIA said, don't give up without getting a definite "no" to dating you. You're throwing in the towel before you've even started the fight. You need to balls it up, 9 pages of this was "funny", but its been like a sad movie with a pathetic ending. Here is what you do:

Call her, tell her "I enjoy your company a lot, would you like to go out on a date with me this (insert day)?". Make SURE you use the word "date" so there is NO miscommunication. Guess what, you have nothing to lose, you're not friends, and you're not dating, right now you're NOTHING to each other, so play your hand the best you can, stop being a pussy, and make this shit happen!

I believe in you!

[bluewahoo]

Yeah, I understand that i've got to ask her on a date, it's just getting the balls to do it... And we are friends, quite good friends actually...

Where would be some ideas to go on a date?

I will give it a week or so, till we have been out in a group of friends for me and her to cheer up again a bit.

Going to ring her later on about going out later, and ask what time everyone is getting there, see if we can have a chat etc...

Convorsation always seems to end up talking about her friends relationships & how certain friends annoy her lol, seems to happen all the time!! :s