Hello,
I first posted this in the wrong area I believe. So I hope this is the right section to get the proper help.
I would like some advice from man and woman with my situation which is the following.
I am 24 and I know a girl with 23 for more than two years and since the begin of this year we started to talk more often by messages, we didn't see each other because we were in different countries. It happened that in the end of July I moved to the country where she was, to start a new course, related to my area of interest, it was nothing related to her. And when I arrived it was like natural... we started going out until a point we had sex a couple of times. It happened that I really was enjoying it and I wanted to go further and start a relationship. We were going out and from what I know now she was giving me all the signs that I could go further. The problem was that I had a problematic relationship before and I didn't want to screw this one. By the time of one month we started kissing she went to her country on holidays for about one month. So I didn't ask her to be my girlfriend before she went on holidays because I wanted to be sure of what I was doing and I didn't want to hurt myself and her as well. When she flew to her country I started to miss her so much and I've decided to myself that when she came back from holidays I would ask her to be my girlfriend. And so I did. She returned, I asked her, and to simplify things she said no, because that question was not made while she was in needy for me. She thought that if I didn't ask her to be in a relationship before she went on holidays it was because I didn't want to be on a relationship and so she putted that in her mind and forgot about me. Now she says that she's alright being alone and fell happy in that way.
Right now I just ask myself why I didn't ask her before while she was giving me all the signs! I just wanted not to screw things and I did the opposite!
We are still friends, but honestly, I don't know what to do. Yesterday we talked again and I cried in front of her. At night while I was in bed I received a message from her asking if everything was ok, and I said yes.
I know that every relationship is different, but I would like to ear some of you in order to get that girl back. She is in no way compared (she is much better) to the girl of my first and last relationship that lasted for three years. I haven't been in love since that relationship ended, which was about two years ago (yes, the same time I met the girl I talk about in this topic).
I don't know if I should talk with her like nothing happened, or if I ask her not to send messages in the next days or weeks, or if I try to force things and show her my love... Help please!
PS: I am not the type of guy that surfs this kind of forums, but I do not have friends but her, in this country (UK, London). Honestly while I was surfing and searching for these forums I found some really immature answers, I hope this will not be that case, because I really love that girl and I fell very happy while I'm on her side.