Originally Posted by
smilebby505
Ok, so Ive been seeing this guy for a little over a month, when we are together we have great chemistry both physical, and verbal. We spend our time laughing flirting and just enjoying each others company, and on occasion he bring up spending more time with me, like during the week etc. I usually see him once a week, on the weekend and we hang out for a few hours or so, and we text and talk daily, except for today? Not sure why I didnt hear from him. However my question for the men out there??? Why would a guy have great chemistry and connection with a girl but not really be into taking it further, ie.. inviting me into his plans or really make a definite sign that he wants more?? Im confused as to why we have such a great spark but after our night is done, he drops off and just leaves it up to a random hows your day text??? Is this a sign he just wants to be casually cool, and not more??? Please help?
Hello!! This is not the 1950s. How about if you ask him out on a date, and use the word "date". Try some good old communication, and I think you'll get what you want, and you'll be happier too.
keep hanging out and give it more time. Sometimes you can withdraw a little. For example, if he ask you out again, tell him you have other plans with your girlfriends. Do that once in a while and see what happens.
I do not support people playing games. Just communicate clearly.
DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM until he gives you a positive sign that this relationship is going to be a committed one.
I wouldn't assume she wants a committed relationship. If she wants a fling, what's wrong with that? I think she can make her own decisions. But everyone should be honest about what they are looking for, so no one gets hurt. Simple, right?
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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