Hey guys,
This may be a long wall of text but please bare with me.
Im not one for posting on a love forum, i like to resolve problems myself but im so unsure about this that i thought it would be wise to get some advice.
Im not like most guys, most guys my age anyway.
I tend not to go for girls unless i really really like them and think that something can develop from it, because of this i have only ever had one girlfriend before this which lasted about two years and was broken off by her for silly reasons.
Well about 3 weeks ago, i officially had another girlfriend after being single for a long time.
Before we got together i spoke to her on the phone, messaging and at college.
My problem is as follows and it might be a little difficult to explain but please help,
She hates initiating contact, We hardly ever speak at college due to us both having different friend groups and the only time we actually get to speak is when we have classes together which is rare.
She not only doesn't initiate contact at college but on the phone and online, so sometimes i test to see if she will initiate contact if i don't initiate it first for hours and sometimes she does but very rarely.
It makes me feel uncomfortable especially at college where it just seems like she wants me to leave her with her friends until were alone.
She hates public affection,
We don't do anything in public, Hold Hands, Kiss which i dont complain about because that's who she is and who she is is the reason i am with her.
But sometimes it just feels like its just me, she wont show public affection to me.
She thinks i lie a whole lot,
She thinks i lie about my grades, What i did at parties etc.
And possibly the one that gets to me the most, she ignores EVERYTHING.
If she has a problem with something, she won't tell me. Even if it does involve me,
when i persistently ask her whats wrong she will drop hints and when i pick up on them shes just like "Oh its nothing",
In fact one time i got the vibe she thought i was seeing someone else and i asked her about it and she said
"I don't really care if your cheating on me anyway"
That really struck me, because that's not who i am and its surely not what i want from our relationship.
Shes only ever been in one relationship before and her ex-boyfriend cheated on her, so it makes me feel as if she is insecure or I should just really wait it out for a few months and see if she starts changing and trusting me?
I would also like to add that when were alone,
My house or her House, Everything is so different, its just so perfect.
Shes who i know she is, and it seems like for those hours in which were in that room watching a movie, kissing etc she really does have feelings for me.
Please help =/