Hello everyone! I'll try my best to make the long story short...
Basically I'm in the very usual confusing situation that everyone pretty much has when they start dating someone...and I would like the guys' opinions on my guy of interest!
I met him through a community for international people in my area...he showed quite an interest in me the first two times we met on our group meetups...I texted him one friday and invited him out to join me and a friend of mine for a drink...we ended up to bed that night...after two days he was off for a business trip for 2 weeks and he'd promised to call me when he's back. He called me indeed when he was allready at the airport waiting for the plane back. Met again the very next day at a group gathering, and ended again back to his place...I told him I would give him a call to meet again next weekend. Didn't really had the chance to call him cause he called me first in the week to arrange for our date and he suggested to go out to dinner. He offered to pay for my dinner, had a great time and ended up to his place again! Then after two days he was off again but for vacation for two weeks...he has promised to call me when he's back...
Now it all may seem nice and happy but there are some stuff that I don't like and some that I like.
What I don't like:
- The fact that during this long absences of him when he's travelling he doesn't contact me at all. And everyone knows that people that don't see each other soon they forget about each other.
- Every time we end up at his place, the very next day he's always booked up a sporty thing to do with his friends from work.
What I like:
- That he indeed has done like he's said and contacted me every time he's promised (we'll see if he contacts me again when he's coming back from vacation...)
- The fact that during our sex sessions what he shows me is that his first priority is to satisfy me and that if for whatever reason he doesn't get 100% to the end then he doesn't care. I want to give him the same pleasure as he does to me but it doesn't seem that he's as much interested in that as in whether I am feeling nice and happy.
- The fact that he wanted to take me out for a dinner
- This is a little too detailed but still it may mean something: After the first time it happened between us, we met at a group gathering. No one from the group realised anything had happened between us cause we (at least I personally) didn't feel confortable to start kissing and hugging with him straight away in front of the surprise of the others. But by the end of the night when the drinks where leaving and coming we couldn't help it and started making out without caring about the group. When we met for dinner the next week, I asked him if he'd heard anything from anyone from the group after that wild night and he replied: " no, but I was expecting lots of sms where they would ask me why we didn't tell them about us"...My first thought was what should we have told them? That we ended up to bed? But I think that this is not how he saw the thing by that time?
Guys, put me out of my misery and confusion! Do you think there are good prospects that this can get serious? What do you think about the good and about the bad signs of what I've described? Should I give him a call while he's back at his home land? I've never really had the chance to contact him myself first...
My confusion lies between two states:
- If I never contact him myself, then he might think that I'm not that interested and after the distance that is created due to the vacations things will just fade away...I may give him a call and show him that I'm still thinking about him coming back and meet him again!
- If I contact him then I risk of him losing interest in me as the rules are saying "Don't call him!"
Help?![]()