Sleep with the escort? or stay virgin?

[Coca]

Hi all,

I am a guy on my 20's and I am virgin! (for religious reasons)

now, I feel I need a girlfriend and a long term relationship that might end with marriage but I am always rejected.

Now, an escort lady (seen at a strip club) told me we can do smth together (sex).

I don't want to do that, I want to stay virgin but the pressure is high on me.

and for some reason all girls reject me (although I don't think I am that bad!)

So, go for the escort or wait for "Mrs. right", who might not come ever and will not want to have a relationship with an inexperienced guy like me?

thank you for your advice, I would really appreciate it as I don't feel good!

[little pingoin]

If you've stayed a virgin for religious reasons, it would be a bit of a hypocrisy to have sex with the escort, wouldn't it?

[candle23]

aim for a gf, not a mrs. right

[Paro]

Who's putting pressure on you to have sex? Or is that pressure coming from within?

Whomever you're hanging out with, or whoever is pressuring you to have sex, they are far too interested in your virginity. Ignore them, stay a virgin if it's for religious reasons, and join some religious chat rooms or church groups to meet other people with your same sexual values. Do not have sex for the first time with an escort. And definitely, like Candle23 said, just try for a girlfriend. Don't look at every girl you meet as a potential Mrs. Right. You don't have to have sex with people to date them, you can just spend time with them.

[Raze]

Aim on getting a gf.

[CocoChanel]

You need to ask for strength to resist temptation. Your temptation is making you anxious to find someone, move fast and get married. It's setting your expectations really high and you might be scaring women off. Get control over your libido and find a girlfriend you are truly in to. Take it easy. Sex will always be available. Don't give in to lust.

[Gribble]

There's no such thing as Mrs. Right, only Mrs. Right Now.

[brightgirl]

Would sex with the escort really clear all this up for you? No. I like the idea of finding some others with the same ideals, maybe finding a girlfriend among them. You mentioned being concerned about anyone wanting you since you're inexperienced; well, it wouldn't be a problem with one of these girls, would it?
Just say No! (to the escort)
You need a girlfriend you can have more than once or twice, one who isn't judging your abilities and skill, who isn't comparing you to a thousand other people. Someone you can learn with, not learn from.

[AdminOnline]

Hi all,

I am a guy on my 20's and I am virgin! (for religious reasons)

now, I feel I need a girlfriend and a long term relationship that might end with marriage but I am always rejected.

Now, an escort lady (seen at a strip club) told me we can do smth together (sex).

I don't want to do that, I want to stay virgin but the pressure is high on me.

and for some reason all girls reject me (although I don't think I am that bad!)

So, go for the escort or wait for "Mrs. right", who might not come ever and will not want to have a relationship with an inexperienced guy like me?

thank you for your advice, I would really appreciate it as I don't feel good!

you are not that old. Focus on your work for now & just keep trying to find a good girlfriend.

Having sex with a stranger is not your only choice.. it may ruin your life if she bring any sexual disease..

[Raze]

you are not that old. Focus on your work for now & just keep trying to find a good girlfriend.

Having sex with a stranger is not your only choice.. it may ruin your life if she bring any sexual disease..

Exactly, thanks love. It's best to save it.

[Coca]

Thank you all for your opinions, which made me cancel the idea of the escort.

but I really miss this warm relationship (not sex) between a man a woman.
Last week I was in a beauty salon for my skin, and this girl was spreading the cream on my face, I felt really good as I could feel the heat of her hands on my skin.

I feel I need this warm relationship, but I cannot find a girl who accepts me as I am

Anyway thanks again, and I will struggle till winning the heart of a nice girl.

[Doc Durian]

You may want to pay less attention to your skin, as a male, if you'd like to find a gf.

Beauty salon visits might have a way of putting an awful amount of women off from dating you.

[ShyGuy81]

20 is not that old to still be a virgin, I was 24 when I lost mine (not for religious reasons). It is far better to wait until you are with somebody that you really want to be with rather than just loosing it for the sake of loosing it.

You may feel that you need this relationship and it is nice but you sound like you are trying far to hard to find it. To use a phrase 'you can't see the wood for the trees'.

There is a big difference between a need and a want, you may feel you need a warm loving relationship but in reality it is something you want. Trouble is (and I have been here with my first girlfriend) if you go into a relationship because you feel you need a relationship you may very well end up with the wrong person as you will be blinded to any negatives. I learnt this the hard way and it has left me with some regrets.

There will be somebody out there that will accept you for you, if they don't accept you then they are not right for you. It may take time but it will be worth it in the end.

Lee

[Coca]

Actually I asked some girls out and all said we are busy (= not interested)!

I cannot find the thin line for me between "giving up easliy" and "trying too hard".

should I keep asking, or should understand that they mean not interested?

Can anyone help me with that?

also if I said to her I like you or complimented her, then it is too forward!

God this dating thing is too complicated for me

[Gigabitch]

Maybe you should stop going to strip clubs. Some nice girls think strip clubs are sleazy and so are the guys who go to them.