Hello all.
I have been with my boyfriend since early fall of 2007. Things are great. No issues of any type. Very much in love.
First I want to state I am in no rush to get engaged or married...
BUT I really want to express to my boyfriend (or ask him if how he feels) that I have intentions to be with him always. I really think he is the man I'm going to marry. I know that 9 months isnt a very long time so I dont want to freak him out, but on the other hand I know what I feel and whats wrong with expressing that.
The kicker is he is not very vocal. He is very loving and caring but as far as expressing him verbally, other than I love you's, he doesnt say anything. He also told me when we first started dating that he wasnt very vocal in relationships and it was a problem and he wanted to work on that. He does say sweet things to me when he has been drinking. I guess it loosens him up, but he has never said anything to be sober.
So I know he's never going to bring such things up. I dont know how to tell him. If he doesnt feel the same about me I want to get out of the relationship bc I am just so much in love with him. Im in my mind 20's and never felt this way about anyone before. If he's not on the same page I want to cut my losses and begin healing.
On the other hand I dont want to push him to be vocal if it's just not him. He's loving, trustworthly, smart, responsible, funny, and handsome. Im very grateful for all that.
How do i bring it up? Im anxious about doing it for all the above reasons.