Hi
Sorry in advance for the essay.
Me & my boyfriend have been together almost a year & were best friends prior to our relationship for 5 years. He also had another best friend who was his ex from school or as he described her once 'his first love'. When me & him first met we started to see each other his ex was very nasty to me because he liked me & went out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable. It got so bad & I was so unhappy about it I called it off with him & we became best friends. During this time I witnessed him & her cheating on people with eachother & him saying on numerous occasions that he thought he was still in love with her etc & the last time this happened was when he had just entered a relationship with another girl which lasted about 2 years (they broke up in April & we got together in Aug/Sept time).
When we first got together I wasn't bothered about their friendship because over the years I had become friends with her too but then things started coming out/happening which I wasn't happy about. She told my boyfriend not to be with me because we were best friends & basically tried to talk him out of being with me. When that didn't work she spoke to me & told me how I can do better & basically said how he was the worst boyfriend ever & how I shouldn't waste my time on him. I just thought that it wasnt a very 'best friend' thing to do, I can't imagine talking like that about him & trying to ruin things for him if he was happy. There was also a time when we first got together where they were on Skype together for FIVE HOURS whilst I was at work- during this time they both went & had showers etc but left Skype in their rooms running ?! I confronted my boyfriend about this & he said he didn't see the problem with it because he does it with his guy friends too but he doesn't seem to know the line. Another thing that bothered me was when we were having a lazy Sunday together & she turned up unannounced & they were laughing & joking together & he fed her from his fork etc & I was just sitting there like a third wheel.
When our relationship got more serious & he saw her less she threw a tantrum & said how she only wanted to see him alone which I was entirely uncomfortable about. This all went on for about 4 months until I had enough of it & told him I couldn't handle the messed up 3 way relationship anymore & told him it was me or her. He chose me & now still has her on fb etc which I'm fine with but after 8 months of being happy without her, today he has hit me with a bomb saying that he wants to see her again & see her family etc which I am completely uncomfortable & unhappy about. Our relationship is very serious & we have discussed getting married & are looking to move in together soon, he has a good relationship with my family so I don't understand what he can get from a relationship with her & her family which he can't get from me.
He doesn't want me being friends with my ex which I'm okay with but he says it's totally different because they were together in school (we are 22 & 23 now) & me & my ex were together for 3 years but I see it as an ex is an ex & I've never gone back to my ex & he wasn't getting involved with our relationship !
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