Why dont you have time? You work 80 hours a week with no days off? What do you like to do when youre not working?
The simple fact is that you need to get involved and actively pursue this person you want in your life. Shes not going to come to you.
As for the rejection, its clear you are fairly new to dating. This is normal behavior in any dating situation. Ive been on dates where we both click and had a great time never to hear from her again and Ive done the same. These are women and they dont think like us men so its impossible to figure out. Men have very few "deal breakers" and women have thousands. Ive had a friend tell me she didnt call a guy back because he " sneezed like a girl" - yes...seriously! So dont sweat it bro...as long as you understand and accept the level of stupid shit women think about when dating, you'll be fine. I think many girls will admit theve probably missed out on some really nice guys like yourself because of this, but those are the ropes Man! Just be yourself and dates many women and it will eventually happen.
I used to feel this way too....lots of rejection and second guessing yourself. But understand its not you.....youre a great guy (you said it yourself). Fucck her if she doesnt see it or has unrealistic expectations. Thats exactly what just happened too! She failed to see the type of guy you really are and lost out. Oh well.....move on my friend
BTW....if another girl does this too you, never offer her friendship or accept if she offers it to you. You dont want to be their friend only...right? Then why would you just want to be friends?