I have a wonderful husband. We have a great relationship, are very happy together and have a very lovely life together.
About a year ago I met someone through my work. We had a mutual, instant connection on a very deep level when we first met. I now work with this person very often, so we have become closer friends. We are cut from the same cloth, we have exceptionally interesting, inspiring, and thoughtful conversations. There have been NO physical interactions and little verbal acknowledgement of our attraction.
We have briefly and vaguely discussed our connection. We both know it is there but are being careful not to cross the (emotional) "cheating" line. I would not consider our relationship to be in any way cheating at this time. We have become very close friends.
But, we are falling for each other. We have not talked about it, but we both "know." I feel so torn. I love my husband, and this other man has a wife and children. Neither of us are willing to leave our current relationship. Neither of us are willing to cheat. But we are inexplicably and significantly connected in some way and it is causing a lot of stress for me in my personal life. As though I am missing something in my relationship with my husband, and didn't realize it until I began to know this other person better.
I just feel that I am more deeply connected to this person than I could ever be to my own husband, which is profoundly disconcerting to me.
I'm not sure why I'm posting. Perhaps others have similar stories? What did you do? Does anyone have advice on how to handle this? I feel that this will continue to haunt me, and can't imagine a resolution to it.
I absolutely do not want to cut him out of my life. I have never met someone that I connect to on this level, friends and lovers alike. I consider him a very dear friend. I feel that we are "soul mates" of sorts (although I have never really believed in this idea before).
Any advice or empathy appreciated. I am just struggling with these emotions at the moment and looking to know that I;m not alone.