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    Is my bank branch manager into me?

    Hi all! I’m new here, but you all seem very helpful and nice. I would like assistance determining if my bank branch manager is into me or just being professionally friendly.

    It started on Thursday. I went to this branch because my normal branch was closed. From the moment I walked in, this guy was all smiles. His first question to me was “how was your day?” And explained briefly that it was busy but good and asked how his was, to which he replied that he certainly couldn’t complain. I then told him that I was there to make a deposit. He helped me, but was all smiles, blushes and eye contact.
    He was asking me lots of questions during this, like what do I do for work, do I like my job... do I have kids... do I have a house yet, to which I said I had no reason to yet. When I said that, his eyes seemingly brightened. Huge grin. Fast forward, and as he is having me sign the deposit slip, he says “here, now this is my favorite pen I’m letting you use...” After I signed I joked about keeping it, and he just stared at me with this huge grin. The line was building up behind me about 4 people deep at this point. I asked if I could please take a brochure on their credit cards to go, I would be looking to start deciding in about two months. He says “you know... what does your schedule look like for the next week? What time do you normally work? What day do you have off?” As I’m answering him, he asks me to take out my iPhone and make a note: “meet with (tellers name) at 12p in Saturday.” He asked if that day and time was okay to “talk” and I said sure. He asked if he could call me before hand... to confirm... and I said yes. He then wrote down his name on like two of my documents and said he really looked forward to seeing me. Today, I called the bank to reschedule as something came up, and they had been expecting me. They said that he had to reschedule too, so to come tomorrow at 1pm. Ten minutes later, I get a Twitter follow and message from said banker, chatting me up a little with an apology for having to reschedule, but letting me know that he is really excited to learn more about me tomorrow,
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    Does it help if I say he is into you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hooo! View Post
    Does it help if I say he is into you?
    ☺️ It certainly helps. I just don’t want to jump the gun, assume, and ask him to lunch or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cassia View Post
    Hi all! I’m new here, but you all seem very helpful and nice. I would like assistance determining if my bank branch manager is into me or just being professionally friendly.

    It started on Thursday. I went to this branch because my normal branch was closed. From the moment I walked in, this guy was all smiles. His first question to me was “how was your day?” And explained briefly that it was busy but good and asked how his was, to which he replied that he certainly couldn’t complain. I then told him that I was there to make a deposit. He helped me, but was all smiles, blushes and eye contact.
    He was asking me lots of questions during this, like what do I do for work, do I like my job... do I have kids... do I have a house yet, to which I said I had no reason to yet. When I said that, his eyes seemingly brightened. Huge grin. Fast forward, and as he is having me sign the deposit slip, he says “here, now this is my favorite pen I’m letting you use...” After I signed I joked about keeping it, and he just stared at me with this huge grin. The line was building up behind me about 4 people deep at this point. I asked if I could please take a brochure on their credit cards to go, I would be looking to start deciding in about two months. He says “you know... what does your schedule look like for the next week? What time do you normally work? What day do you have off?” As I’m answering him, he asks me to take out my iPhone and make a note: “meet with (tellers name) at 12p in Saturday.” He asked if that day and time was okay to “talk” and I said sure. He asked if he could call me before hand... to confirm... and I said yes. He then wrote down his name on like two of my documents and said he really looked forward to seeing me. Today, I called the bank to reschedule as something came up, and they had been expecting me. They said that he had to reschedule too, so to come tomorrow at 1pm. Ten minutes later, I get a Twitter follow and message from said banker, chatting me up a little with an apology for having to reschedule, but letting me know that he is really excited to learn more about me tomorrow,

    Update: I went to the bank today, and the conversation went well. He did ask me what my plans were for after work on Friday, and said he would call... to discuss something he wants to follow up with on my account. He also wanted to know what my favorite type of food was, which seemed out of the blue. I think he’s trying to possibly plan a date and not seem obvious about it, but I don’t want to assume. When I left, he reminded me again that he would be calling. I’m more confused than ever. 🤷🏽*♀️

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    Oh hell ya he's flirting! He's setting up a date by the sounds of it.

    BTW multi posting is a waste of time. You get the same amount of opinions if you posted the thread once. Members check out and read through all the forums. It's frustrating for us to see two or three of the same thread.

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    Duly noted— no one was responding in one board, so I moved it to another. Forgot to delete! Sorry about that

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    So are you seeing each other again?

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    Quote Originally Posted by smackie09 View Post
    So are you seeing each other again?
    I am not sure yet, I am anxiously awaiting a Twitter reply. I took the initiative and asked him to lunch one day soon, but he hasn’t checked his messages yet.

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    By the sounds of it, don’t worry about jumping the gun and asking him out, because he’ll make sure to set up a date. He’s been pretty forthright so far, so if he wants a date, you won’t have to worry about setting it up.

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    No....haha...he is just being nice. It's his job. I worked in a bank before too and its perfectly normal to act like that. As a woman who worked in retail banking before, I get hit on all the time because we are super nice to our clients and sometimes it gets mistaken for something more.
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    A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything

    She uses logic and manages her emotions

    She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them

    She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions

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