I dated a guy for 10 months. We broke up because I didn't believe he really wanted to be monogamous with me. I called him a few months after the breakup. He said he had been missing me like crazy. I asked to see him. He said he didn't want to unless it was non-exclusively so we didnt' get into the same eomtional roller coaster as when we dated the 1st time. I stupidly agreed thinking maybe he'd come around. We started seeing each other more and more until I found myself getting attached again. He said he was starting to feel vulnerable too and didn't want to.
He went on a trip the following weekend. I didn't think I'd ever hear from him again. As soon as he got back he emailed and called me. I didn't respond. At the end of the week he left a voice mail and told me he was bummed he didn't get to talk to me and was going away for 8 days to a remote wilderness area and wouldn't be able reachable via cell phone and that he would miss me and had been and if I got his message within an hour to call him otherwise he'd talk to me after the trip. I didn't call and I didn't hear from him for over 2 weeks.
I went on a forum he frequents and saw pics of a woman in his jeep. I finally called him. He said he had to get something off his chest.. he's having a hard time seeing me. He thought about just being platonic but it would drive him crazy bcuz he likes having sex with me too much and asked if we could take a break for a few months. I said "if you don't want to see me anymore just say so" "I'm not trying to sugar coat anything" he said. I said no to the break. I He said "well... I hope our paths cross again someday".
I emailed him a few days later and asked if his decision to "take a break" had anything to do with someone else. He said no. I called him a week later. I told him I knew he was seeing someone. "How do you know?" he asked. I said I felt it when he told me he didnt' want to see me anymore but also saw pics on the forum. I asked where/how he met her. He hesitated to tell me anything but after I insisted he said he met her on the trip. I then asked him if he had ever wanted to be exclusive with me to which he sheepishly responded "no". Then I said "So I guess you never meant it when you told me you loved me either". He got angry and said "Everything I said when we were together I meant".
He is moving in with her after 4 months. I am beyond heartbroken. He never meant anything he told me.