Dancer Girlfriend Broke Up With Me Yesterday

[Greg323]

Hey everybody!

I just needed to talk/write right now because I'm hurt. Is that ok? I took a day off and not feeling too well. None of my friends are available to talk to me.

I was broken up yesterday by my exotic-dancer girlfriend, whom I met two weeks ago in her club.

Needless to say, it was awesome!

However, I wanted more, yes, more, perhaps, yes, a long-lasting, meaningful relationship...

The sex was amazing. We made passionate love, our warm bodies lit by the soft glow of apple-cherry scented candles.

We went out to dinner and savored each minute of ourselves, like one would a fine French wine.

We had serious conversations, about trust, respect, our future together, you know, all that stuff.

I thought about presenting her to my parents (with a bit more clothes on).

Going to the zoological butterfly exhibit, to kiss her lips surrounded by the graceful dance of thousands of butterflies, the weekend after she was due to visit her probation officer.

Yet, well, I just got dumped. Suddenly. Unexpectedly. Just like that. I need to find myself she wrote to me on her SMS. I don't know what I want. I really like you and I still want to see you, but I need to know who I am first.

And I am left, alone yet again, with only my tears to console my aching heart.

G.

[olb30]

How long were you two together for?

[basilandthyme]

Mate I know you're hurting and disappointed, but two weeks together is nowhere near long enough to be thinking about long term. As much as you may feel connected, this was the very early process of 'getting to know you'.

Please - for your own sake - next time you have a new girlfriend, keep your heart protected for the first few months.

[olb30]

Ah I didn't register you were together for two weeks.


Firstly...

You were taking this far, far too seriously.

You were together for two weeks, and in this time you were talking about your futures together? Trust and respect? Meeting the parents?

Sorry to say this, but sounds like you were having great sex with someone and in her eyes it was nothing more.



Two weeks is nothing. I think you have alot to learn. How well can you get to know someone in two weeks? I don't think she is what you thought she is.


That said, don't let yourself get too down. You had a good time for two weeks, feel happy for that and move on.

[smackie9]

Everyone is right, you shouldn't have invested your feelings so soon. She probably just wanted a good time, then she noticed you getting all too gushy on her....she has a different lifestyle she probably would rather date an outlaw biker, they tend to have a lot of money...they will even buy her new boobs. This is not a girl you bring home to mom and dad....she knew this, that's why she ran.

[searock]

I also don't understand why you put so much emphasis on the fact that she's an exotic dancer. So what? She's a girl you met and hooked up with for a couple of weeks. You let yourself get way too emotionally involved for a 2 week fling, that's why you are hurting so much right now. Just take this as a lesson, as other posters have already told you: next time you date someone, wait until at least a couple of months before you let yourself be vulnerable to such raw emotions.

[smackie9]

I happened to work at a club for 4 years, and I personally knew strippers, one was my friend's daughter was a stripper, my husband has done work for most of the strip club owners here. It's the lifestyle that comes with the job. And if you read closely he said " the weekend after she was due to visit her probation officer." is a pretty good indication of her lifestyle.

[searock]

I happened to work at a club for 4 years, and I personally knew strippers, one was my friend's daughter was a stripper, my husband has done work for most of the strip club owners here. It's the lifestyle that comes with the job. And if you read closely he said " the weekend after she was due to visit her probation officer." is a pretty good indication of her lifestyle.

Okay, but the main issue here is the fact that he was too emotionally invested for a 2 week fling. He would have had the same problem if he had been dating another, non-stripper, girl. He is the problem, not the girl.

[smackie9]

Actually his chances would have been better with a non stripper.

[searock]

Actually his chances would have been better with a non stripper.

Fair enough, but he still would have made the mistake of falling for her after only 2 weeks. I think he should work on that regardless of the possible outcome.

[michelle23]

I think the lesson here is if he gets this attached to someone hes sleeping with so fast-then dont sleep with her until you know its going somewhere. And smackie is right. Your chances would have been better if she wasnt a stripper.

[NiaPeach]

This reminds me of a facebook debate a while ago. A male friend of mine blogged this also. Hope this helps!

As far as strippers I have dated a few some cheat and some don’t and the majority are messed up in the head, can be violent and depend mostly on their looks. This opinion comes from my experience of dating strippers, models and other very attractive women and talking to my friends that have also done the same or even run strip clubs. And also many strippers have been raped or molested at one time in their life and stripping is their way of taking back their sexual power. (I’m not saying that is the case with all of them but it seems to be a trend.)On the up side Strippers are fun, often generous (the good ones), and hot to look at, outgoing and fun to hang out with, and most but not all are but MOST are generally more sexual and many have good hearts. I have no issue with the job or the industry itself nor do I look down upon it or them and I judge each person individually, but you must also take in account any stereotype becuase stereotypes are formed only when there is a very large percentage of of the group in question that fits the stereotype in the first place. I dated a 10 that was a stripper many years ago and she told me when we broke up “Nico, don’t date strippers, you can’t trust them.” and that was coming from a stripper.
I did not listen as I just stopped dating another stripper that was reliable, did not do drugs or drink did not live the stripper lifestyle (about 10% if that much are like this) and was my best friend, but that’s no longer because she has daddy issues that caused resentment toward men and I got tired of verbal attacks becuase of her issues. Everyone is an individual but certain industries do attract certain kinds of people and personalities. They have a different way that they carry themselves. Strippers and Girls in Porn act differently that a Woman that’s a lawyer, actresses also have their own peculiarities. So in closing All strippers are NOT crazy, cheating, lying, whores…But you can bet there is a fair share of them out there that are crazy, will cheat, and some will have sex for money. So don’t be blinded by their beauty look for their beauty in their actions to show you who they really are!

[smackie9]

Fair enough, but he still would have made the mistake of falling for her after only 2 weeks. I think he should work on that regardless of the possible outcome.

That goes without saying. He lacks experience, probably has lot of money saved up and spent a good amount on her, she used him yadda yadda, had her fun, moved onto the next shlep, end of story.

[NiaPeach]

There are no good strippers. There could be though I haven't met any. Even if they have good hearts, how are you innocent letting men and women look between your legs most of the time with nothing on? That says a lot about a woman's self respect. Have you seen what goes on in there sometimes? Explicit.

[michelle23]

they all have their own story and reason why they strip. some feel they have no other choice. it doesnt mean they dont have a good heart or that they have no self respect. instead of putting down these women-we should be talking bout the men that go there.

i find men who frequent these places far more disturbing and quite sad and pathetic-not to mention desperate.

the girls however-many are just v unlucky and if they could change their situation-many would