Ok so I'll keep this as short as possible, I am in the military currently deployed and me and my wife got married about a month and a half before I left. I was talking to the now ex friend that I met her through (thats a whole other drama) and he sent me a handful of well... racy pictures that she had taken and sent him when he was on his last deployment. At the time she had wanted to date him when he got back and they had fooled around a few times (this was all before I ever met her so whatever no big deal).
This just happened this morning and I want to tell her he sent em to me because I feel we should tell each other everything but with the time differences I havent been able to yet.
Now part of me like I said wants to tell her even if she will likely get upset and mad at me a bit but at least I'd be being honest. The other part of me wants to keep quiet and see if she sends me anything like that while I'm on this deployment. She had also previously showed me pictures she had taken that weren't just self shots they were more special pictures, more thought out for a previous bf who broke up with her just before his deployment and she had them to him on his deployment.
I'm the type that wants to be the best at everything and I like to feel like I'm special to her otherwise why is she with me. I have 5 months left on my deployment so a long time for her to send that kind of thing. If I tell her about them I'm sure it will come out that I dont care about him getting pics but I will if I don't get anything then she will feel like she has to and its something I'd rather she do because she wants to not because I'd get upset.
Am I just being an idiot thinking like this? BTW I'm leaning about 80% towards telling her because thats how I am honesty is key in relationships.THanks in advance
P.S. I didn't go asking him if she sent him pics. I don't think she realizes it but I have known about the pics since day 1 when I met her because he mentioned something about them to her while we were all hanging out.