I think not, but here's my issue. I have had this wonderful girlfriend for about a year and a half now. She is great in so many ways. She is beautiful, has a great body, never bitches at me, doesn't go crazy, is very faithful, she can be happy just chilling at the house watching a movie or TV, I cook, she cleans, the list goes on and on. There is just one problem...she's just not that in to sex...and I am.
She also isn't very...affectionate I guess you could say. PDA just doesn't exist in her vocab, let alone too much affection even behind closed doors. I know this is weird, but I just happen to be one of those guys that cares about that stuff. I want to be hugged, kissed for no reason, told that I'm loved out of the blue. Having little things done for me for no reason other than because you want to see a smile on my face...because I am the same way. I have always gone over and above, flowers, gifts, candlelit foot and back massages, and I cook for her about 5 nights a week. I feel like she just takes me for granted...even though I know it's not true. She does drive to my house 5 nights a week to see me, but her point of view is "she wouldn't be here if she didn't care". Well that's fine, but you just "showing up" isn't what I want out of a girlfriend. I want you to ACT like your my girlfriend when you are here. Anyway...I'm rambling.
Basically I always have to do ALL the initiation when it comes to sex. I could be happy having sex every time we are alone together. (4 nights out of the week.) She has plain out told me that sex to her isn't a big deal, and she thinks I make a big deal out of it. The only time she initiates is when she is drunk. I know that sounds bad, but she 180's when she is intoxicated. She's all over me, and always initiates sex. I have come to reason with her and I would be happy with minimum 2 times a week, but I feel I have to struggle for that. Ok, so I get one drunken sex night where she might not even remember it, and then I have to force her to another time (if I get lucky) and then I feel bad, and usually the mood isn't right for her so it's basically not that great for me either.
We've had talks about it, but I feel she NEVER sees it from my side. I just don't want to bang anything that moves. I want her and only her. She is awesome and I love her to death and I embrace our passionate times together...I just want a little more of them...and not feel like an ass every time I want to and she "isn't in the mood". I don't want to break up with her, I think she could easily be the one, because this is literally the ONLY issue I have, and yes, I know it's a big one..but if I can find a way that maybe she could just work with me a little bit and not take sex so seriously, that we could have something amazing.
Any help/advice greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my post.