Hi everyone,
I am 23 years old and I am a bit fed up of being not satisfied with my friends. I grew up being more or less a reject at school even if I had a couple of friends. Actually, I was friend with most of the people at different times, but the relations never lasted.
Now, I am at college and I realise that I am picky when it comes to friend; I do not want to hang out with my old friends, because I think they do not like me anymore. I also have that feeling at my job place; to feel that as soon as something bad happens, people will stop liking me. There is also the fact that I always want to have a lot of friends; therefore, I hang out with a lot of people and I "try" to have a relation with potential friends.
I am a very susceptible person (probably coming from the situation mentioned earlier) and as soon as a small incident occurs, I have the feeling that my friends do not like me anymore. In a way, I say to myself "look, they probably don't like you anymore, so you should start to avoid them before they start to avoid you, it will look better." However, I must say that this situation usually happens with normal friends (not best friends or very good friends), which is still very bad since my "normal friends" are usually the ones with who I go out and have fun; geographically it is like this unfortunately.
That is a situation that happens a lot and I am tired of it. Do not get me wrong, I have some very very good friends (like maybe 2...one having left for another country....) with who I have a "normal relationship" with no problems usually. Nonetheless, I am REALLY FED UP of that situation of worrying a lot of what my friends think of me and that they do not like me anymore. I am VERY SUCEPTIBLE and I cannot hide it. Most of the times I am worried for NOTHING and I paranoi!
You guys (girls) have any tips on what I could do to be happier with friends without being so suceptible
Thank you