I'm having trouble projecting myself for making new friends who could be a potential lover. Despite being good in lot of things, I have never been a bully in my life, thus never had the alpha male status.
I'm 5'4 and I was overweight until very recently. After having seen one of my crushes get married and other one go out with my friend, I decided for a makeover. I started going to swim every day and I ordered nutrisystem. I was successful in losing the extra weight. I have also been successful in gaining an inch in height (I ordered another product for that.).
Also, I paid 1800 dollars for a dating service back in Feb hoping to find some luck. Unfortunately, few girls existed in my area. Lot of girls of my age group happened to be in Salt Lake City, UT, and Omaha, NE and they were not interested in long-distance relationships. Also, unfortunately, the service has a no-refund contract, so the money went down the drains. I put a hold on the account hoping that it'll be useful in the future. I have another 6 months of it left.
As a sidetrack, I also started going out to nightclubs. Usually I dance very well and one of two things happen:
- Either a few girls dance with me or
- None of the girls dance with me
But, either way I never get a chance to introduce myself to the girl. It's like either I'm just a dancing machine or a dumb guy.
Recently I read a few books on picking up girls - including - the mystery method, the Game etc. It gave a very elaborate strategy on attracting girls and providing them an opportunity to love you. I still am too shy to try any of the methods - I'm having trouble deciding where to start. The concept was that girls like guys who already know lot of girls.
After a lot of thought, I opened a facebook account and started adding girls as friends who share my interests and who I'm possibly interested in. I put my best face forward with my photos and I was lucky to be accepted by around 50 girls as online friend. But unfortunately, I also added a few girls from nightclub. They accused me of being a creep and reported my account to be disabled. My account lasted for 3 days and I was really motivated by my success. My plan was to post my adventures in my facebook account and keep in touch with girls of my interest. Unfortunately, it backfired even before I could start - here's what happened:
One of the girls said she had to work at Brusters until 5pm
I wanted to comment that I used to go to Brusters all the time, but wanted to be innovative.
She said hers is at Dormont and the crowd is old people unlike her friends' place which has lot of sexy people.
So, I said I was one of the "oldies"
She immediately went into the defensive and accused me of being a creep, reported my account of abuse and additionally commented that I look like a 40 yr old guy. I probably do. I have a few blemishes on my face.
This happened last night. The I went to the club - today was the "dumb guy" night. I didnt care.
The question is - where do i go from here? I have the best possible situation of my life and am still depressed about it.
I'm hoping they'll re-enable the facebook account and I could just keep motivating myself that the crowd is watching my progress and I can get the vibe, but it'll be disabled one day or other. It served its purpose. I need to move on. But what else can I do?