So recently, one of my friends that i've known since 2003, we got together and whatnot. Last Sat, she wanted to hang out cause it was her free night, and her mom was taking care of her little one. So she got a hold of me and said sure. So she came over to my house. We watched movies, drove around, had a few drinks, held hands, made out and has sex unexpectedly. I knew something like this was going to happen but the sex. So after that, me and her got attached really fast. Maybe a little too fast. After work during the week, i'd go over to her place to hang out. And got too see her daughter. It was going pretty good. Until Thursday when I got off work. Got a MSG from her on FB, saying that there are few things she wanted to say. I'd like to say, it took me a while to understand everything. So 1st she stated that we shouldn't get any closer then we already are cause you are going to be going to school and you need your school. I don't wanna hold you back at all. I really don't get this. I'm not sure how she would be holding me back, but after reading more, I starting to understand more. She has a 20 month old little girl, and she has become attached to me. Thursday while I was at her house, she was calling me dada. Maybe thinking it would change her mind about things. Not really. But this is what she was afraid of tho. Cause her real father, bailed out on her. Ever since she was born, he real father has seen her maybe no more then 10 times til now. So now this is where the schooling comes back into play. They both don't wanna get closer cause I gotta go outta town for schooling. I am taking Automotive Mechanics. And where I will be gone for so many weeks, it would be hard on both of them cause i'm not there with them. I'm trying to explain the best I can.
She told me, she don't wanna really do this but this is right thing to do right now. We both care for each other very much. Some people have told me, that it's possible that you 2 were meant to be. But I have also been told, that it sounds like she might confused and scared about somethings and just to give it time to work things out. Everything should work out fine. If you 2 really care for each other, we don't see why you 2 aren't meant 2 be. And just to give it some time. Take things slowly. She has a 20 month old girl and it's hard for her as a single mom.
She don't wanna lose me as a friend. She even stated that I don't think we could ever build a relationship.. but least not now. But like some people told me, take it slow, give it time, spend time with them, and who knows, maybe you 2 will get together before your schooling is actually over. I'm going to be done my schooling in 3 years from now. I've said this to her, the moment i'm done my schooling, don't matter where you are I will find you and hopefully we can start our lives together and she smiled with a okay and a big hug.
But yeah, I explained it the best I could. Do you guys think we can still have a future together after what I have just told? I love both her and her little girl very much and I know they love me back. I care deeply for both of them and they care deeply for me. It's something I needed to get off my chest cause it's just been hurting me. But if I know if we have a future together or not, thats all I need to know.
Thanks for the help.
Forgot to mention, yes, I know 3 years is a while away still. I shouldn't get too a head of myself. But I don't know, I guess thats what happens when you love someone.