Hello Ladies!
My girl and I broke up about two weeks ago. It was more her decision than mine. I let her think it was kinda mutual though. We hit a rough patch and the reality is that I wanted to work things out but she said she needed time to get her act together. We’d been together for about a year and a half with the usual ups and downs. About a week after the break she emailed me looking for some stuff back. And I mean minor stuff that wasn’t even valuable.
She owes me some cash too but it means nothing to me so I didn’t even look for it. I ignored her message as I’m trying to keep to no contact and see what happens. Besides I’d already returned all of her stuff except for something I was still using to her friend and her friend had told her that. I’m thinking of just dropping the one thing I still have outside her house with a note basically saying Thanks and Be Well. I was told that she cried to her friend that I hadn’t contacted her since the break. Her friend said what do you expect, you broke up with him. He wanted to be your boyfriend not your friend.
So she texted me again 3 nights ago saying hey and asking if I was going to keep ignoring her forever. I still haven’t responded to that. Is it too late to see where she’s at or should I just ignore her more? I'm not sure what her intentions are here. Is she testing me to see if she still has me or is she genuinely missing me and reaching out. What do you think??
I’m not trying to drive her crazy but I don’t want to cave in here. She treated me kinda badly at times during our time together – dismissive, disrespectful, unappreciative. Even her friends have described her as a narcissist. Basically I did all the giving. But she is still more sweet than sour. She just has a lot on her plate and she’s not dating anyone else. She doesn’t go out at all.
I miss her like crazy and wish we could work this out. I just don’t know if I’ve waited too long now. If I respond what should I say? Or should I keep to the silent routine and just drop off the item? If so, with or without the note? We have a lot of mutual friends in common, so I will see her again. Let’s hear it. What do you think?