Is that possible? Also, do you think it is possible to genuinely love someone else's kid? What's the most you can do in that situation? Is respecting the kid and being the best person you can be enough even if you don't ever really LOVE the kid but you love the mother. Is it something that should come naturally or something you should work on until it happens? Can you force it on yourself or it's just like, if it doesn't happen, it won't?
I hope some of this makes sense.
For me personally, it is important to have a soulmate. Can you be a soulmate with someone who already has a kid? Your priorities will always differ IMO. The only way to do it is to have a kid of your own with that person. Otherwise, you will have your own stuff and the person you're with will prioritize her kid. As it should be. But you won't be soulmates. That's the problem IMO. You won't ever really be a team. Never on the same page IMO. Anyway to be a soulmate with a parent unless you two later on have a kid together? Otherwise your connection can never be so deep and profound to the point where you would call each other soulmates.
Do you agree with me or is something wrong with how I see things?