hi everyone, my names james and i guess this is my introduction. im 21 from Reading (at uni atm). standard 21 year old love music, love girls attention, love going out with my mates, love traveling, unis OK i guess (third year dissertation and such is kinda lame)
i've come to your forums but i need a bit of a hand with a girl. strangers outsiders advice is something i think would be useful.
if you dont wanna read this theres a condensed version at the bottom
2 months ago me and my GF got back from NYC after an amazing ten days out there, kinda like a good bye to the holidays and a get away before the new term started. After we got back my misses had to go home for 10 days to help on a photo shoot with her mum. (photographer, not model, even though she could defiantly do both) Anyway, on the day before she was supposed to come back she apparently got so drunk she kissed some other boy ... complete randomer type snog. she came home and came to mine and i had a meal cooked, flowers bought and a movie she wanted to watch. i had it all planned. anyway, she told me this and it hurt so i asked her to leave and i just went to the pub with my friends.
the next day / week we talked and she said that she didn't wanna be with me, that she was confused and that she needed space. i gave her the space and a week later she said it was best that we don't go back out. i was gutted, i forgave her for the lad she kissed because i know what its like (i got really drunk once and kissed someone at the beginning of our relationship which i really cant remember)
after talking and stuff i think i've narrowed it down to a few things
1) last year of uni, she wants to concentrate on her course
2) she kissed someone and hates herself and thinks theres gonna be major trust issues.
3) her dad has been made redundant (thank you conservatives) and her nan has dementia and is in a hospice and its too much to care about someone else on top of the stress
4) she wants to go to china after uni and i wanna go skiing and i think shes scared we'll break up so she'd rather cut her losses now.
5) maybe she just doesn't fancy me any more? (which i find hard to believe cos she still says she fancies me, says she misses me, says she loves me, still finds me attractive, still enjoys my company)
SO THE PROBLEM
this last week shes contacted me. on monday she asked me to come over for a cuddle at 11:00pm, on wednesday she asked me for coffee but i couldn't due to lectures, on thursday she again asked me for coffee but again lectures ... today she ring me whilst shees on the train to have a chat and catch up because she won't be able to speak this weekend.... and now we've agreed to go for coffee on monday next week.
im confused. does she miss me, want me, just want to have sex, needs someone to talk to, want to get back with me? blahhh. please help
IF YOU DONT WANNA READ ABOVE
1) Me and my girlfriend have been together 2 years and recently got back from NYC. everything was PERFECT literally. good conversation, good amount of contact, sex was still amazing, we liked each others friends, there were no trust issues, we had the next two years of our lives planned (uni, then china / skiing)
2) she went home for 10 days and kissed a guy
3) came back to where we live and broke up with me
4) wanted space so i didn't contact her at all for a couple of weeks
5) she always contacted me first ... text .. facebook ... phone call.
6) now she wants to meet up, go for coffee. she says she misses me, loves me etc.
7) she wanted me to go to hers for a cuddle at 11pm ... what were her intensions?
QUESTION) what the hell is going on? does she want to get back with me or is she just testing the waters? Maybe just just wants to talk? advice would be amazing. what do i do?
THANK YOU EVERYONE