From wanting to get married to being unsure about the future in a month.

[sophiedaphne]

I have been dating this guy, J, since July of 2012. Everything was going wonderfully until after I graduated. In May, he asked my parents for permission to marry me.

Two weeks ago, we got into a fight. I told him I wanted him out. It was pent-up feelings that were never addressed, but we both had a lot of frustrations and “complaints” that were building up and it finally exploded. He left for few days with a friend in Atlantic City. Came back two days later. The thing that hurts now, though, is that he’s not sure if he can see a future with me because of this scenario. Since then our relationship has been, overall, wonderful but he can’t commit to wanting to do this in the long-term because he’s worried that the changes he’s seeing are temporary.

I think I deserve to be with a person who knows if they want to be with me. I think after almost 2 years, it shouldn’t be a question anymore. Thanks.

[dontaskme]

How old are you guys?

[surfhb]

If you just graduated school its too soon to be thinking of marriage. This is a perfect example. Youre level of communication with this guy has not developed....you learn these things as you get older and wiser.

[basilandthyme]

Your hypocrisy is astounding. You tell him you want out, then get upset because he's not feeling secure with you anymore?