I need some imput from some boys AND girls

[Amichelle]

Ok, so i have this boyfriend and weve been dating since september of 04. It seems like we now have this issue where he wants his space and i dont mind him having space with his friends. But, he wants every single weekend to spend with his buddies and as awesome as that may sound to him.. i want the weekends too!! He works all week and we still talk and hang out a lot during that time..and thats really great, but theres MORE to do on the weekend and for him to just give his friends that time and not me is unfair i think. So does anyone have any suggestions as to what i should do? i had the idea of maybe giving your friends everyother weekend.. but he didnt like that at all. Ughh!

[HalfwayIIHeaven]

key word here is COMPROMISE, I think. Work together.

[Mish]

Hi Amichelle

Two options i think:

1. Hang out with him less on the weekdays and more on the weekends.
2. Hang out with your girlfriends on the weekend and ignore the hell out of him!!! (that will drive him nuts)

Yes, i agree with you. I want my SO to spend time with me on the weekends too! (It's unfair for them to have fun without me!)

[Junsui]

I wouldn't use sex. If he is unwilling to compromise, then you have more issues than just him wanting to hang out with friends. He should be able to have some time with his friends, but he should still make some time for you. I just go out with my bf and his friends, but not every guy likes that heh.

[TAVS]

Sounds like an ass

[Tone]

Yup, grade A jerkoff.

[shh!]

I think he SHOULD have some time to himself without you, and you should have some time to yourself, too. How else will you nurture other friendships if you invest ALL your time in him?

Why don't you cut down a bit during the week (so he doesn't begin to take you for granted) and only see him on Saturday nights, and you can both take Friday nights to spend with other people?

[gHEXjt]

So he wants to spend every weekend out with his friends???? sounds like he doesnt want to date you or trying to push you around and get control of the scene. being a woman you hold one thing that a man cannot live without. cut him off and you will see how quickly he falls in line.

Now this will work! He's taking you for granted, so stop putting out. He will fall in line damn fast.

Bottom line though, is that compromise is everything, like someone already said. If he's not willing to compromise, then dump him, simple as that.

[blue]

never use sex as a weapon, neways that invites all other kinds of troubles.

[shh!]

Never use sex as a weapon. Why punish yourself along with your partner?

[Junsui]

Exactly what shh! and Blue said. It's immature to do that anyways.

[gHEXjt]

That's bullshit! Speaking from a guy's perspective, after the first time she holds out, he will cave and she will win!

[Junsui]

It is still immature. Win what? That one argument? Congrats!

[Only-virgins]

1. Hang out with him less on the weekdays and more on the weekends.
2. Hang out with your girlfriends on the weekend and ignore the hell out of him!!! (that will drive him nuts)

Yes, and 3. Don't use bright pink text.

[carpflounder]

That's bullshit! Speaking from a guy's perspective, after the first time she holds out, he will cave and she will win!

Yeah right. Try holding out on me if your my gf...Just another reason for me to cheat on you.

If I were you i'd be pissed. He should be spending time with you first, and then he should be trying to fit in his friends. Dont manipulate (with sex or anything else). I'd let him know how you feel about what he is doing. If he doesn't make arrangenets for you than I would make arrangements with someone else.

Good Luck.