Sorry, but being a good guy is not enough. There has to be a spark. Girls don't fall for assholes for the sake of it. (Plus not all girls fall for bad boys etc etc) With assholes, there usually is an element of excitement and attraction. Attraction is built on chemistry, and there has to be a spark. With a nice good looking guy who really is a nice guy - well it doesn't matter if he is the nicest guy in the world or the most committed guy in the world - you don't decide who to start a relationship with based on logical facts such as "He is a committed and good looking guy therefor I should start a relationship with him".
It doesn't work that way. You don't "analyze" and then come to a conclusion like that.
What Sanctuary said is also true. You have to be confident etc.
But I think, it's not possible to just say "I want a guy who is funny, committed, clever". An answer like that is not a real answer. No one can decide who to fall for, therefor, it's very hard to say exactly what makes you want a relationship with certain guys.
If you want a typical answer, then yeah he has to be clever, outgoing, social, caring, interesting.
But again, the real answer to your question is: He has to know how to create real attraction. And what creates attraction just depends on the person
Last edited by ellie; 21-10-09 at 01:06 AM.
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