I am putting this out there because all the notes I hear about people feeling lonely as singles are teenagers and young adults. Although I don't doubt their feelings, it's just different in your 30s and 40s.
I get told time and again, the same things when I get a little teary about being alone for 5 years since a broken engagement (I'm in my mid-30s).
Yes, I like my career (work in progress), I like my friends, I like where I live, I have hobbies and I have let go of my ex metophorically-speaking, but there is still an emptiness to my life at times. I want a family, however, at this stage in my life, I have made peace with adult scenarios (i.e. - Cinderella stories are boxed with my tutus) include children for me, or my own children, but I am tired of hearing that I am either an unhappy person for very greatly wanting a partnership like many of these critics have forged. And anyway, we are are a little scarred, married, single, divorced, etc?
It's funny because I liked being single in my 20s and had very few LTR. All the girls I knew fretted and I always figured that it was silly, doesn't every pot have a lid?
I think it's so normal to want to hold someone, be held, tell secrets, travel, grow and a create a life with someone. Friends are wonderful, but they don't completely subsitute. For once, I would just like to hear different advice from my once fretting girlfriends (in their 20s mind you!) that I shouldn't feel lonely or concerned.
Although it's great to not wallow and I certainly don't want to become a wet mop, once in a while it would be nice to just hear someone say that it is okay to not be so strong alone and so optimistic about it- that it's okay to be sad sometimes.
Anyone else feel this way at times?