I Cancelled the Date Back to Square One FML =P
Okay, so I know I was getting hiped up for this date, but I think I realized I was going to get used so I cancelled and just made something up.
First of all:
She said she didn't have a car. So, if the date goes bad, I'm stuck with her with no way out. The only thing I can do is leave her at the place, which will make me look like a total asshole. I really don't like driving people around when I'm not in a relationship with them because then I'm responsible for bringing them home (which is bad when the date goes sour).
Second of all:
She said she had no money, which was a red flag to me. I was like "who tells a guy that? What the ****?" It's like great I have a job and money that I'm saving up and this bitch isn't going to pay for anything in the future. If that's not being used, I don't know what it is. I mean I was willing to pay anyway, but she like slapped this in my face.
Thirdly:
Well, I checked out her house beforehand just to scope things out, and it looked creepy. Basically, it was the middle of nowhere. I thought great, this will be like the family from the Texas Chainsaw Massacre.
Fourthly:
I don't think she has much of a future and I wanna be stuck working and taking care of this bitch. I do need someone to care of me. I don't like taking care of people who don't pull their own weight.
Finally:
when I talked to her on the phone, she mentioned her ex! DING DING! OKAY! F THIS! Nothing lost here babe! Also she said she likes a lot of violent video games and I don't really like violent women because I'm basically a pretty gentle person when I'm not rubbed the wrong way.
I would say to anyone reading this, that these are some warning signs to look out for. I hope people can learn from this. I don't feel bad about cancelling because I wouldn't want to be stuck in a bad situation that I can't get out of. I think it's okay to cancel if you get a bad vibe about it. Just be nice about it.
On first dates, I think it's important to be around lots of people rather than being isolated because you don't know what can happen. There's a lot of weird shit out there.
I also think it's important to scope things out before the actual date. If things don't look right, they probably aren't. Survival tip #1. And I'm pretty big on survival. If it will keep me alive another day, I'm fine with it. =P
A lot of people say don't judge a book by it's cover. Well, sometimes you need to so you're not dating a psychopath.
I will do my best to reply with an educated, humble and honest answer. Ultimately, it is up to you whether you want to listen to my advice or ignore it completely. Sometimes, my advice may be wrong; occasionally, it will be right. Regardless, I want to do my best to give people answers they are seeking.