Hun you need to calm down and clear your head. Don't contact him for a few days. Just take some time out on your own to think and tell him you will contact him when you are ready to talk.
Then when you are calm and thinking clearly, you need to ask him what kind of old friend? Were you dating her? Did you ever sleep with her or have any sort of sexual relationship with her? If she is just a friend then why didn't you tell me about her? Why was I never introduced to her? Can I meet her? Why would you arrange to meet her after midnight? Why were you alone with her? How long have you been meeting her behind my back for?
This is a HUGE red flag so don't ignore it. It is possible he is having an emotional affair with her. And also possible that he is cheating with her. Of course he is going to lie and say nothing is going on so you may need to be sneaky to get the truth. You could approach her without him knowing and ask her is there anything going on between them. That is what I would do. You will find it easier to tell if she is lying than if he is.. You are too close to him and its too easy for him to manipulate you. However, if you approach her and she knows who you are and she is more than happy to talk to you, is friendly etc then that probably means there is nothing going on. If she doesnt know who you are, and gets defensive or tries to walk away from you-then yes he is a cheat
How long have you been together? How old are you both? How often do you see him?
Last edited by michelle23; 29-07-13 at 05:46 PM.
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".